Absolutely expect that everything keeps getting better and better. And know that there will always be moments of contrast but you are stronger than that. Don't let his quietness derail you, simply use those moments to sit back and tend to your own vibration. Remember, you are whole and complete without him. You don't NEED him, he simply complements your wonderful life.

Everythingisbeautiful wrote:

Thank you, Cherished.

while we were in no contact, I scripted and affirmed how I wanted our relationship to be. And I see that he is coming around and it's pretty awesome. But when he goes quiet or does something that I don't like, i see deep down that I am expecting his old patterns to come up. I'm trying to transcend this but it wavers after a few weeks. Is it just a mental thing? Do I just keep affirming what I want and trust? I have changed a lot and I know it serves us no good if I box him into what he used to be like.

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I have this sudden worry that the old patterns will show up again and I will not be strong enough in my beliefs. The greatest lesson I've learned is no matter where he is- near or far - I must always put myself first. Self love is ongoing and I sort of lapsed. I know when I was feeling happier and we were in NC, it was far easier to work on my relationship script and to believe. Now that we are talking again and I see some minor old patterns from him(which are negligible), i am finding it difficult to transcend it and focus on what I want. I am remembering some old disappointments that I used to feel and I never want it to occur in our new relationship. can he really change? He has already so I don't know why I'm thinking these nonsense thoughts.

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