Vera wrote:

If there is a single shred of doubt inside each and every aspect of your mind, you will always struggle to create the life that you desire. 

To replace your doubt with trust, your mind needs to undergo a complete re-programming, and the first step is to change your perception about your circumstances. In general, focus on the positive and the possibilities rather than the negative and the impossibilities.  By changing your perception and by repeating the new perception in your mind through creative visualization, you are manipulating your subconscious. Your subconscious will eventually store all the new repetitive mental images that you keep focusing on in your mind. 

Once you’ve successfully reprogrammed your subconscious, your new perception of your circumstance will become a new belief. As you already know, you manifest whatever it is that you truly believe in, whether you are aware that these beliefs exist or not.  

You will also eventually feel more confident about your desire and will rest in the assurance that your desire will be in your physical reality soon.  It is only when you are confident in your ability to create and be naturally detached from your desired outcome that the Universal Mind will ‘sense’ your complete trust in its limitless and absolute powers. Detachment cannot be forced -- it happens naturally, when you've successfully replaced your old beliefs with new ones through subconscious re-programming. 

Once the Universal Mind senses your complete trust, and the UM knows based on how much you allow your desire to come to you (meaning no resistance), it will respond with the best plans for you so that you will realize the best version of your desire.  

 

I remember you telling me how I need to discipline my mind and if I really want this I can make it possible. I have been doing the exercises and kept devoted to them. I have even been trying to focus on me more. I am still going to take the thirty days to create this new habit.

My darling said he wants nothing to do with me anymore, but yet he still seems upset about us not living together. He said we would have made a week yesterday as if he has been counting. So he is just frustrated. So right now, I am going to focus on raising my vibration and enjoying myself.

If I focus on the reality between us right now, it will just create strong resistance again. I an going to go back to being the strong me who had nothing but strong faith in me. I remember when we first started dating he said he never lasted more than three months with a girl. With me he already lasted half a year because I had no resitance, I had complete faith. He adored me, he called me perfect, he loved me and I him. We were a team.

Once I started to doubt, the resistance came on strong and that's when problems between us happened. I know for a fact that it was the resistance that screwed us up, the law is working all the time after all. So I need to recreate that beautiful faith and trust. I played a game once where I lost $6,000, normally I don't lose no more than $100. So that was a huge amount, towards the end of the game though, I gainer $90,000 which put the $6,000 to shame.

I felt like the Universe was saying, "So you lost six thousand dollars in your relationship, big deal. You can gain a happy ninety thousand dollars that will make your loss of six thousand dollars look like a joke." So ever since, I thought of the years of resistance in our relationship being like the $6,000. I want to manifest something as powerful and wonderful as the $90,000 that will make all the years of problems meaningless.

Vera, thanks for this!

This was a great thread. I totally have doubtful days too and feel silly I'm THINKING of a man who isn't thinking of me, but then I snap out of it and say how do I know...

The best part is that there are days I'm not thinking of just him or the past. I'm thinking of finishing school, my degree, moving to Arizona, raising our daughter in a beautiful pace, a new car even a sexy flawless wardrobe I'm going to have after my degree..and then as usual..HE pops up. But not as negative as before...it's more like how much he will love my wardrobe AND contribute to it, that he won't be able to keep his hands off me, that he will be so in I've with our daughter and me he wouldn't dare want us to leave maryland without him..and I text myself as if I'm him to remind me of things he would say and will say once he realizes he can no longer stand it without me and our vibrations are back in alignmnt.

It's tough at night..wishing the phone would ring or feeling I'm roll me in a ball and lock me in his sweaty arms but I KNOWS where ever he is, he is holding pillow, smelling my rent or looking at pictures of us because I feel it. Its been 3 weeks, but the lifetime we have will supercide this space.

He will want us to never be apart again, and I Wil be the happiest I am with or without I'm because I'm stop seeing the beautiful possiilities with our daughter and nothing more precious than her to me..to us!

I read this in Neville's The Law and The Promise today:

"If man is not manifesting his desire, it is because he is thinking of what he wants instead of FROM his wish fulfilled".

Had an aha moment with that one! I think its so easy to say "I want this" or "I want that" and we can say that, but it is not until we truly believe it is ours and act as if it is already ours do we then actually manifest it into our current reality!

With much love and thanks!

I have that same problem. Eve in meditating. At times I am meditating I see him turn away from me. but he never walks away. So now I do guided meditations like on youtube. But honestly there is nothing more rewarding that speaking directly to the erson in my head. Its like telepathy but its helpful when the negative comes in. I can talk to him and say babe im sorry i cant think about that right now im packing for our vacation or i understand how you feel, but your actions werent appropriate, but i know the next time youll be less vocal or use better words. It is a true challenge