iinikkii wrote:

Or another question .. Doing affirmations.. Saying "x and I are in a loving relationship" how does that make a difference when we know we are lying to ourselves?

It doesn't. Affirmations only work if you actually believe them and when you feel like crap you're not going to believe them. Affirmations are good to say while you're already feeling amazing cause they'll keep you in that high vibration.

Ok. First and most importantly.. I do not make ANY financial gain through being an administrator here. Nor do I have any afiliation whatsoever with Veronica. I am not on this forum for the benefit of myself- I am here because I HAVE MADE THE JOURNEY from misery to happiness. As have all of the people attempting to help you to understand. The reason I contribute here is because vibrationally I am in alignment and I am in a position to offer people the motivation and inspiration they need in order to  achieve their own desires.

At the moment you are not really understanding where the other posters are coming from- and that's ok because we all had to start somewhere! Every person that is trying to offer you advice has been through this and is talking to you directly from their heart.

If you don't wish to buy the book, nobody needs it as a prerequisite. Please look through the videos, stickies and hundreds of other wonderful discussions that outline and highlight exactly what we are all practicing.  What you will come to realise if you persevere and learn, is that you ARE actually wanting to feel better. And you won't get your love back until you truly DO feel better. And then you'll realise the journey IS to find your own alignment. It's actually not about simply winning back an ex.

Ok.. But how does my alignment assure me that I will get him back?

iinikkii wrote:

Ok.. But how does my alignment assure me that I will get him back?

 
Nope. Your attitude and your beliefs will determine that!

When you learn how to effectively raise your vibration, your emotions change, and therefore your thoughts also change. When you learn how to deliberately feel better, you automatically attract better thoughts. And that results in your hope turning to belief, turning to expectation. It all works simultaneously. That's what everyone here is practicing- The art of alignment.