80saeaak wrote:

It's very clear that you do love her. You are angry and hurt and I think rightfully so. She really confused the hell out of you! You didn't know where you stood or what she wanted. It's quite unfair and you do have reason to be upset.

I want to put a different spin on this... have you ever thought maybe you're too good for her? I mean, don't you think you deserve someone who is sure about you and not someone who would settle for you or treat you as a backup plan or a rebound?

I do think you romanticize her. There were great moment,s yes, but it sounds like you spent a lot of this in total confusion. Why would you want that? Of course you can change this. You can use Neville Goddard's revision technique to heal these problems. You can Ho'oponopono to forgive yourself and her. You can do anything once you're dispassionate about it and let it go. But, just for fun... why not start making a list of everything you do want from a relationship? All the feelings you had for her, but reciprocated and with certainty? Whether you manifest it from her or someone else doesn't matter. You deserve to be loved and treated well. We all do. Why this one who didn't see your worth when she had you?  I'm way overstepping here, but I think you can do better. I think holding onto her is doing you much more harm than good.

Thank you so much. I mean, I she really did like me a lot... i just also think over the course of the relationship i became needy and her feelings for me faded over time because of it. It was clear she still had feelings for me as more than a friend in some respect...

I don't know if I said but I tried dating other people. I just couldn't do it. I thought I could but I ended up not being able to. I just feel like she's the one. But certainly I need to do something to "feel" better before I even attempt to manifest her back. But those are some really good thoughts thank you. I'll try writing a list

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Thanks for telling us the background which I don't think we knew before.

I'd like to ask you something. I'm not being mean, judgemental or all the other things people call one another on here sometimes. I'm just asking you to consider something. And I'm going to ask another forum member the same thing.

Are you 100% sure that you unconditionally love this woman and you both have something to offer each other, and that any relationship would be reciprocal - ie a good relationship?

Or are you on the train of thought that things went wrong, or you don't like how she behaved to you and so forth, that by putting that right, "getting her back", winning the prize as you see it, validates you and makes you a worthwhile person?

Also, what's so special about her and what does she have to offer?

This is simply an idea but I do know what I'm talking about because I have done that. When I broke it all down I realised I was trying to prove my own worth by getting someone back who had blown hot and cold, been disdainful and talked about other women. He never came back, in fact he ignores me totally. However, though I no longer have any hurt feelings towards him, if I never heard from him again I wouldn't care. It would be nice, if he wants to be a friend and be respectful, but if not it doesn't matter.

Think about it.

I'm in a rush, gotta get ready for work, but I've asked myself that question and the answer is, yes. I truly love her...

Thanks guys. That may be part of it. I guess another part of me worries if I was a rebound (at least for some time) because she'd accidentally call me by her ex's last name a few times... she'd tell me she was over him, but things she'd do or say kind of showed otherwise. But then again, that was early 2015 from like Feb to April-ish. Then she seemed to lose interest in me over time, but in November she brought me food her mom made for Thanksgiving and kissed me. And then that night told me she liked me, but not enough to be in a relationship with me... then on Christmas Eve, she invited me to Church with her family (which means a lot. She wouldn't do that with just a friend). And then in January 2016, when we were arguing, she said, "How could you even think you're 'just a friend', when I invite you to spend time with me and my family on multiple occasions?!" etc. (I'd hang out with her and her parents, we'd go out to eat sometimes, we'd all watch movies together, her mom would question me about my future, my intentions with her daughter, etc... so those are good signs) After that, in 2016, we were in this "IDK" stage, at least from her point. She wouldn't let me talk to her about it because whenever I'd bring up a relationship, she'd get angry and yell at me or reply with "I don't know." And then in April 2016 she kissed me, and then after kissing after I smirked and said, "See? You do still have feelings for me", she pushed me off of her, not angrily, but said, "No I don't." (clearly she did at least to some degree... I could tell...)

But since then, I took her out on a picnic and we flirted a little, even though she told me she doesn't feel the same toward me anymore, she doesn't have feelings for me, etc.

Then over months, she blocked me, we argued a lot, she told me she has feelings for someone else (hoping she was just saying that) and threatened a restraining order, then blocked me everywhere.

So it's like somethings showed she had feelings for me, and th