Calling all success stories! ๐๐๐ผ » It worked :โ) » 12/11/2017 11:30 am |
WOW CONGRATULATIONS!ย
Flying High ๐๐๐ซ » Funny! » 12/11/2017 11:28 am |
I wanted to come in and share the states I were in when I attracted my lover back twice before because I think it fits the theme of this thread.ย (During these times I didn't know about LOA)
1. The first time he ended things with me, saying he needed time to himself. I begged and pleaded and that didn't work (now I know it never was going to work). For about a month I tried so hard to focus on myself and do things for me. (we weren't in contact during this month). I didn't do this to bring him back. I did it because I wanted to feel better and to me focusing on myself and moving on was going help me heal and get over it. I wasn't perfect at doing this and was still upset often. Then one day, I was hanging out with my family, not doing anything special at all, and said "you know what, I'm happy." In that moment, for the first time in a long time, I was unconditionally happy. That day he contacted me.ย
2. The second time he ended things I was a COMPLETE MESS. I cried allll the time and felt hopeless. Just getting through the day was a struggle. Then one day I contacted a psychic who said we were "meant to be." I paid $300 for a 'cleansing'. Right before I went to bed I was to sit in a salt bath, hold an earth stone (whatever the heck that is), and light a white candle while visualizing being happy with him (she provided all of the materials). After two or three baths (I can't remember) he came back and was saying/doing all of the things I had wanted, but not how I had visualized. I didn't care though because he was back. I wasn't in a state of total bliss or extreme self love. Although I did let go because I somewhat believed that everything was going to work.ย ย
I wrote all of that to say, I don't think there's a concrete formula for this ish. I don't have the answers. I don't know if there is one solid answer. Self love will probably keep them around though. That's what I was lacking before and so my insecurities and doubts manifested him continuously leaving.ย
Law of Attraction Discussion » How do you believe with "impossible" circumstances? » 12/10/2017 5:00 pm |
Thanks again. Right now I feel absolutely hopeless. We haven't been in communication for months and he's been happy in a new relationship without me ever since we split. But self love is my ticket out of this misery!
Law of Attraction Discussion » How do you believe with "impossible" circumstances? » 12/10/2017 4:08 pm |
I actually have one more question for you.. how did you get over not thinking about your guy and the other girl? I tend to go deep into negativity thinking about them together. Like while I'm over here he's over there making memories with her: talking on the phone, facetiming, and it's almost Christmas so they're buying each other gifts, spending time together etc. It's hard because I want to be doing those things with him and they're growing closer together which is going to make it harder for him to come back to me
Law of Attraction Discussion » How do you believe with "impossible" circumstances? » 12/10/2017 3:35 pm |
Thanks for the response Selfloveiskey! I went back and read a lot of your posts. You preach self love and that really seems to be the "magic". When you have self love letting go and everything else comes naturally. I'm going to start by challenging myself to one week of 100% commitment to self love and no negativity. I know this will need to become a lifestyle, but I have to challenge myself or else I'll fall back into the same negative thought patterns. Thanks again
Law of Attraction Discussion » How do you believe with "impossible" circumstances? » 12/10/2017 10:36 am |
My guy ended things in April 2017 and has been seeing another woman ever since. They recently made their relationship public via Instagram. They seem very happy together and very much in love. How do you believe that you can attract your person back in situations like this?
I definitely want him, but I don't see how in the world he can come back. Also, I think if I've been doing the "work" and he hasn't come back in 8 months, what's going to make him come back any time soon? Maybe I'm just meant to live with this hurt? In the 8 months that I've been consciously trying to manifest him things seem to only go in the complete opposite direction that I want them to go in. In the 8 months, other men have expressed interest in dating me, but I wasn't interested.
I'm aware that my doubt and attention to reality are blocking my desire, that's why I'm trying to clear this up. I don't intend for this to be a negative thread, I'm just trying to find a way to move past this. I've read success stories of people with similar situations, but for some reason in my mind my situation just seems hopeless. There has to be a way though, I want there to be a way for him to return to me in the most beautiful way. Help please
Flying High ๐๐๐ซ » Be honest to yourself! » 12/09/2017 12:41 pm |
I'm glad that you called me out on 'strong belief'. I've watched countless YouTube videos and have been in touch with many different coaches. It's easy to start using the same terminology they use, but not be conscious of the feeling behind it. As you've said, feelings are everything. Things manifest from feelings, not words. I honestly didn't exactly know what I meant when I said it until you pointed that out for me.
Thanks for breaking it down for me. All I have to do is change my state and the rest will follow.
Flying High ๐๐๐ซ » Be honest to yourself! » 12/09/2017 10:26 am |
Sanshi wrote:
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You are the operant power and you have to do something before your world can change.
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No disappointment over here. I'm thankful for you. I need this. I've been at it for months and haven't yet achieved my goal, so I need to shift. By 'strong belief' I meant believing in my desired outcome with as little doubt coming in as possible.
What exactly do you mean by "you have to do something before your world can change"? What is the "do" you're referring to? I know I have to change myself before my world can change.
Flying High ๐๐๐ซ » Be honest to yourself! » 12/09/2017 9:43 am |
Sanshi wrote:
AnythingIsPossible wrote:
Iโm hoping this โletting goโ approach works. Whenever I think about him I just imagine him single and send love.
I just told you it doesn't. You don't need to hope for anything. You can just apply the Law properly and it has to come. But imagining him single isn't proper application. First, is him being single what you want? No, you want a relationship. Second, imagine him to be single obviously implies that he isn't with you. Why would you imagine that? Third, it isn't about imagining, it's about feeling its reality.
Damn you're good at this. You're exactly right. I shouldn't imagine him single. I should continue to live my life, doing things that I love and have a strong belief and knowing that the Universe is bringing him back to me in the most amazing way. Thanks again!
Flying High ๐๐๐ซ » Be honest to yourself! » 12/09/2017 7:57 am |
Thanks! You answered my question perfectly. Iโve stopped thinking about my guy and โattracting him backโ because I think that was really putting out contradicting energy. I would visualize multiple times a day. It would feel sooo great and sooo real, but then I would just notice that he wasnโt around (along with constantly checking and analyzing whatever he was posting on social media).
Iโm hoping this โletting goโ approach works. Whenever I think about him I just imagine him single and send love.