My guess is that these people aren't working on self love first. Most of the posts here are desperate and depressing. If you don't love yourself and work in the root of the problems by yourself, the problems will continue. Even without techniques, more often when people get back together than not, it's distant. People are hesitant about repeating the same problems. I wouldn't blame distance and hesitation on the technique so much as I would blame it on people worried more about getting an ex back than learning to be complete without them.

There must be a level of trust in any relationship. I use both Facebook and Instagram (it's a picture sharing form of social media. Same idea as Facebook, but without statuses). I like many men's pictures and follow many pages of very good looking men, along with parenting, humor, relationship, LOA, and other random pages. I don't think anything of it to like anything. I think people take social media too seriously, but I also think technology has changed how we communicate and makes relationships harder. My thought are don't let it bother you unless you see a reason to be bothered. If you can't trust a man, why would you want to be with him anyway?

happyhan20 wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

It annoys me when people say things about putting themselves down because they haven't heard from a random person they met once in a bar. I made a quite lengthy post about this subject a month or two back. It happened to me and I wasted a whole year of my life pining for someone I didn't know.

In these situations it's not about you because they don't know enough about you to reject you. It's about them.

No need whatsoever in this context for putting yourself down.

Hey Flamingo,

Yes I agree I do. I don't know why I'm doing this to myself I guess what I meant is how can I get the mindset that I am worthy and not to be so sad that this is happening?

After my ex I just feel so rejected and my confidence has hit a low again 😣

Here's the thing: you wont manifest anything if you don't love yourself and feel great. I would suggest not doing any technique outside of maybe EFT tapping and self-love meditation for a few weeks. Not only will it not work, but it may make the situation worse by pushing back manifestations. It's very unlikely your vibration is making him feel good towards you if your vibration isn't good.

Also, think about this: He's a stranger. Truly a random person. No one should make you feel like this, but especially not a stranger. This is a very clear self love thing.

Sanshi wrote:

80saeaak wrote:

I guess I'm just too new to this to understand the problem here. I did say in the original post that I get my vibration up by getting to my happy place. Rereading I do understand where you're coming from. Yes. I believe it and feel it as is happening. Often I feel tears in my eyes from joy. I don't know if that's correct, but it's overwhelming bliss during. If I don't feel that, I stop.

The problem is (it's not really a problem, it's pretty good actually) that you have a guidance system - your emotions - that shows you the way to where you want to be. When you look at something you don't want, it's impossible to feel good about it, because your guidance is telling you that this is something you don't prefer. You have three possibilities here. You can stop looking at it all together which can be hard, dependent on what it is. You can find better feeling thoughts about that thing which means in the end that you still direct your attention to something different (to use your example, you could appreciate the people who repair your toilet or whatever). Or you can continue to look at it and trying to stay positive. For me, that sounds like "Damn, this is crap. I really don't like that, but it doesn't help to complain about it". That's still better than standing around and complaining about it of course, but it is different from shifting your thoughts and feelings deliberately. Hope that makes it a little clearer.
And again, I don't know how you feel. I may be wrong. I just can tell from my own experience that I tried to get happy after the breakup in order to get my ex back and yes, I had moments in which I really felt good, but it was more pasting the good feeling over all the resistance I held in my stomach. And I think I am not alone with that Many people do that. You can see that, when they have a "bad" day after a really good one. If you are really happy, you just don't get depressed, because some minor reason like seeing your e

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