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Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » He broke up with me » 9/18/2017 11:53 am

Cynthia
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Are you saying that someone who is cowardly, immature, unstable, and disrespectful and goes off on you for no apparent reason and who isn't man enough to speak with you directly but takes the coward's way out to break up with you by using whatsapp is your type?  Don't set your sights so low.  He doesn't deserve you. Work on your self esteem and self love and you'll wonder why you ever were willing to be treated this way and why you ever wasted even one second of your life on him. You can do so much better.

Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » Minor Setback... » 9/17/2017 9:48 pm

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whitebutterflies11 wrote:

Yes, I've improved some too with my perfectionism. But it's still very strong as it's been engrained since birth basically for me. My POI is the same as yours! He's not an ex. He's an almost was as well.

Personally, I think that's worse than him being an ex. For me, I know I constantly think about the what ifs. Because we didn't have a full fledged relationship, I have no grudges or disappointments that others have with their ex. I feel like him and I haven't exercised our potential. How could you give up on something that hasn't run its course? It drives me crazy. Sorry, rant over! Lol

I will look into those cds. Thank you!

I agree.Β  I think an almost was is worse than an ex for the same reasons.Β  In my case, it's all been long distance, and there has been a certain amount of hurt and disappointment between us.Β  I certainly have felt hurt and disappointed by the way he treated me - just a part of it was loads of broken promises, although very small ones, accumulated over time, making me feel disrespected and like I didn't matter much to him, even though for a while he had told me I did.Β  For me actions speak far louder than words, and when somebody promises they will do something and then they do the opposite instead, especially when it happens over and over again, it gets to me after a while.Β  The final straw that made me tell him off in a major way was soon before he went to live with his older son, which he did just before Christmas. He had voluntarily promised to tell me his big news that he'd been waiting to hear first before he told anybody else, and he said that numerous times. It was only the following week when his big news came through, and he told everybody but me first, and then made a point of telling me that he'd told everybody else first - his daughter, his sons, his father, and I don't know who all else and how excited they supposedly all were, which I actually rather doubt, because I got the impression from

Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » Minor Setback... » 9/17/2017 9:00 pm

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whitebutterflies11 wrote:

You "hit the nail on the head," Cynthia!! I am a perfectionist in all aspects of my life. And it isΒ exhausting!!Β Anyway, I think that's what's messing me up. Is I am always so used to immediate results, or at least some visible progress. For example, I have recently lost about 33 pounds. The first week I lost 2-3 pounds, and I was losing a pound a week. I knew I wasn't going to lose all my weight at one time, but seeing the scale move little by little was not only positive, it also assisted me with moving forward. I had visible results so it gave me the motivation to stay upbeat and continue my journey. With my POI, I worry about my visualizations, vibrations, intention, etc because I have not seen tangible results in the physical realm.

I am on day 3 of the challenge and I had a little difficulty today. I posted a picture of my brother and I at a family gathering last night on social media and my POI didn't like it. Now, I know, a lot of people on this forum are blocked, so please forgive me, I don't mean to come off as being ungrateful. I just worry now why he didn't like last night's picture. My mind is a mess today.

I am very interested about the last part of your last post regarding the Hypno-Peripheral Processing. Is that something you must purchase or is available on youtube or something?? THANKS!

I know how exhausting perfectionism is from personal experience. It was something that was so deeply engrained in me from childhood and continuously reinforced that it has been difficult to overcome, but I have improved a lot. It's taken time, though. Sometimes I have deliberately made a small, unimportant mistake just to not have to be perfect all the time.

Congratulations on your weight loss.Β  That's something I need to do as well.Β  I agree with you about having tangible results. It can be motivating enough to keep you going.

I haven't heard from my POI since December, and I've been actively trying to attract him ba

Scripting πŸ“ » Love » 9/17/2017 1:34 pm

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PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Nice! Try visualising marriage and commitment before a baby though.

I agree, but it sounds like there's already a baby on the way.
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LOA Questions and Teachings πŸ™‹ » Why do we have negative thoughts? » 9/17/2017 12:57 pm

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When I have negative thoughts, it was because I was brought up with enormous negativity and was bombarded with it virtually constantly day in and day out for a good many years. It's brainwashing and programming from a very early, impressionable age.Β  It's been an ongoing challenge to overcome it and have a more positive viewpoint and outlook.

Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » Minor Setback... » 9/17/2017 11:34 am

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whitebutterflies11 wrote:

Wow! Thanks, Cynthia!

I'm sure Neville's imagining and visualizations were not as complicated as I am making mine out to be. I think my over-analyzing is what is causing the discomfort with the whole process. I had a conversation today with a friend who practices LOA for a lot in her life and has had a ton of success. She told me she would just imagine a whole lot. During the day ,at different times each day. She told me she seems like a bit of a kook because she lives in a la-la world basically. So I think I need to just get into a routine that works for me.

I started the 25 day challenge (I just finished day 2). I like how the challenge gives me gives specific scenarios for us to carry out in visualizations. This also helps me control my thoughts. I'm both excited and hopeful that this challenge allows me to keep my vibration up & feel good.

Any more suggestions/tips for me about this journey/process?? Thank you again for all of your help. You're a gem

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It sounds like you're doing everything right. I think you're trying to be too perfectionistic, and you don't need to be. I'm trying to get over perfectionism myself. I've been thinking about doing the 25 day challenge myself.  I started it a couple of times but didn't get beyond about day 3.

To try to keep myself thinking the right way, I listen to Neville Goddard most days, sometimes everyday, have listened to a fellow Brit read some of his books a lot as well, and I've also watched Veronica's videos a lot, especially because I like her positivity. I also printed out the posts I could find here by jensherratt about getting her man back and read them when I need a boost because they've really helped me. This hasn't been easy for me because I had a hugely negative upbringing that continued on far beyond my upbringing that I have been trying to overcome for most of my life. I have also got self help cds and dvds that I find helpful, hypnosis or altered state programming, by

Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » Just a question » 9/17/2017 4:40 am

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PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

I think what he really wants is to be able to believe and is looking for encouragement to help him do that.

But we've been doing that for years now. I don't know what to say anymore as he keeps coming back saying he has no faith and doesn't believe. We can't change someone's beliefs.

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It might seem like years to you, but it says you joined last year, and I joined this year, not that long ago. Some people have little or no faith, and apparently he is one of them.  I think he needs more encouragement than other people, and I think you can change other people's beliefs.  I think he wants to believe.  It probably gets boring and tiresome to keep trying to convince him, though. He sounds depressed to me.  He definitely needs to put the focus back on himself and his life. It's out of balance with all of that obsessing over that woman with all of the most negative assumptions possible.

Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » He has a gf... » 9/17/2017 3:04 am

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Don't dwell on the other girl. Don't even think about her.

Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » Just a question » 9/17/2017 2:59 am

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I think what he really wants is to be able to believe and is looking for encouragement to help him do that.

Help me align please... πŸ™ˆ » Seeing him tomorrow. » 9/16/2017 7:15 pm

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Yes, imagine things going the way you want them to, and when you are with him relax and be yourself.

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