Things have been going well for the last 3 to 4 days.My SP was chasing me i.e calling and texting me.As I stopped that from my end.Only was working on myself and doing some internal work.She may be felt the energy change and started getting drawn towards me.My bday is in 2 wks time .She just mentioned she is going to visit the third party during that time.I felt disappointed .Its because I lost my Dad who isnt going to be arouns for my Bday obvsly this year and she isnt going to be atleast present to wish me.As when she is with the thirdparty she doesnt even message me.

How do I deal with this

I brokeup with my girl in 2014 practised LOA etc had some success  cut to the present in 2018 i attracted her back we started off well.We met and all of sudden we gathered we love eachother even now,we became so close and expressed love to eachother.We became friends with benefits and she was contemplating on breaking up with her current bf to get back with me.

This guy was one of the reasons we brokeup in 2014.We met so many times and had our intimate moments as well.Now things have changed .She says if he wasnt in her life she would have been with me and would have married me.

This has been the case for the last 4 months noe.During this time I lost my Dad and have been really emotionally disturbed too.Now I am settling down and not sure how i would get rid of third party and get her back to commit .I want to marry her and have wonderful relationship with her.Please help.

I have one of my work colleagues who has become my friend.However we work in different countries .We used to share everything and anything mostly and chat for literally however long we were awake for. The problem started when people in the office started bad rumours and bad mouthing.I have shared couple of conversations with some of them taking them into confidence but that back fired as they spread that all over the ofrice. Now even though we are just ok  friends the closeness and the warmth isnt present. I have apologised many times but to no avail.She just said whatever I might do or think her behaviour towards me isnt going to change. I know behaviour changes every time but need some guidance on what I can do to change this reality. I have written a write up for her and she shared with our common friends that she felt sad for me. But again he behaviour is a bit weird , the other day we were chatting alright but she suddenly said. "I want to tell you something dont feel bad but dont use dear etc words when talking with me". She was fine with that al these days but not sure why now? I asked her the same and she said she dint want to answer.

I just want us to be back very good/close friends. Please help .
Thanks