Hey guys, just want to post an update.

I received an invite to my SP friend’s birthday today. I joined them for a few drinks but we ended up having an argument.

The argument was about the fact she kept going around other tables to talk to other people rather than spending the night with us, which I don't have a problem, but I just said it‘s her friends 21st birthday, which I thought is a bit disrespectful, ‘why are you not spending time with your best mate’. She then I argued saying that I cant take it because I have feels for her etc, that she has guy friends etc. She was quite drunk but I didn't want to argue so I just left.

She kept saying she is seeing someone else, she has other guy mates and why should I care, when I only know her since Jan. she said she will never be with me etc. So I just apologised to the guys and left. On a side note I never brought anything up except “why are you not spending time with your best mate”.

I am not gonna lie those words did hurt, and I feel A little discouraged. What do I do at this point? Is this part of the process? Some of my friends said to me just leave her she is a #^*%%. Which made me sad. Can’t really explain to them about LOA. So I just feel a little alone here about my desire and whether things can change round. She didn’t really give me much attention tonight either...

Need help and advice, thanks,

Kevla

Hi Cynthia and Veronica,

Thanks again for the advice, I have been applying it, and I have more or less had an amazing week, I was invited by my SP to celebrate her birthday, plus I've even met her best childhood friends who she went to school with. All her friends and family love me. We even had a laugh and a good time at the radio last sunday.

However today she starts telling me about another guy, I was a little confused, so I asked her if she was dating him, she said "kinda", but then she said "not really", because it wasn't anything serious. Plus she said it's probably not going anywhere, because she wants to be single and he is alot older than her.

I took the news as a shock but I managed to stay composed and enjoy the rest of the day with her.

I am not really a fan of third parties becasue I've had bad experience with a previous SP a couple years ago that failed. So my question is how do I deal with this? Do I still live in the end? Is this an obstacle that will interfere? How do I get rid of the thrid party?

I keep telling myself that I know better and that she loves me and that things will work out just as I want.
But any uplifting advice would be nice.

Thanks a million guys,
Kevla 

Thank you very much, I have been distancing myself with social media to the point of deleting the app through my phone. I still have to use it every so often as I have to promote my work through it (as a DJ and producer).

So far I have been slightly happier again. I have even manifested going mini golf with her yesterday. I even met her male friend the other day who turned out to be her childhood gay friend. So I was assuming wrong and overreacting (to my previous post).

Had such a blast, but the only thing now is that I want more with her? Is that normal? Don’t want to sound desperate.

And how is it going to leap forward and evolve? As we are still communicating very casually and friendly.

Many thanks,

Kevla

Hey guys,

I hope everyone is well.

I'm quite new here so go easy on me.

Need some advice and help with my SP.
 
When we first met we connected really well and everything. We were quite similar almost like a twin flame. Since the lockdown we haven't seen each other but we have stayed in contact. My SP would text me first, but recently she hasn’t contacted me. Which I thought was a bit weird.

Her birthday is coming up, so I thought with a good heart to ask her today if she wanted to come and DJ with me to celebrate her birthday on radio. She said yes and was very happy about it but I noticed her tone was very casual.
 
She even asked if my other DJ friend will be there? To me it sounded like she didn’t want to go solo with me?
 
My SP not to long ago invited me to a garden meet up but then cancelled last min because apparently “the host couldn’t do it” but now I wonder whether she purposely say that because she didn’t want to go with me?
 
Even by text now she is very short and just being friendly no kisses, no flirting, no funny tones. I ask my self whats changed? And whether this matters?

I feel like she is trying to not to lead me on and make distance with me, and Just keep me as a friend. 

I have all these scenarios in my head that I have lost a little bit of faith from LOA. I feel lost and don’t feel confident with my wish that it will come true with my SP.

Please note that I have anxiety, and I know I could be overthinking but I feel a little lost at the moment.
 
Any tips or advice to help me with this please? Also can I still manifest my SP? Is the current scenario just a bridge of incidents? Becasue it doesn't look like it's evolving forward?
 
Many thanks,
 
Kevla