I love this exercise!! Because when you actually start to go this deep and dig into your feelings towards them, you will actually start to really get to the core of your feelings!

Thank you for posting this x

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

1) I think it's the way we think about the ex that creates desperation and need. If you think of this person as your only reason to be happy, then you're not doing yourself any favors. I've been taking more time lately to find more of what makes me happy and I think it really boils down to just being yourself as best you can, the real you, acting on what you feel is best in your heart. Maybe that's a little too esoteric or too simple, but it's helped me lately. If you say I can't be happy without my ex, a specific person, a certain job, income, etc. then we are holding our own happiness hostage. Why would you want to do that? Don't we deserve to be feel alright regardless of what we have?

2) What exactly does letting go mean? People throw it around but it sounds so ambiguous. Do we let go of desire? No, that would be unnatural. Do we let go of fear and doubt? I prefer that way of thinking about it. Stop giving a crap about the crap that makes you feel like crap; decide now to live your life in a way that will make you feel better. That is my favorite way of letting go. Do we let go of the ex? Maybe. I see no reason to keep thinking about the ex over and over again if it feels bad. My way of letting go is to let go of needing this and that to be happy now, be cool without it, feel awesome now instead of waiting for that stuff to make you feel good.

3) Yes, they can both work together, RS to me is just visualization with a fancy name. You visualize a scene in which you have what you desire (romance with your ex), you feel good about it, you keep doing it until it feels so real, eventually it will feel so real to you that you won't feel a need to visualize anymore. It's like a video game, at first you're so excited that you play all day long and then eventually you get a little bored and move on, even though you still love that game. So it can be with RS, you've done it enough, it feels like a done deal, and then you can let go. But here's th

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