Posted by arefxp 7/17/2020 4:30 pm | #1 |
Hi Veronica, i just found the forum. Have been watching your videos. Whereas most of your video focuses on manifesting SP, i have a question regarding my situation though my situation is not quite like most of the people watch your video. Please read carefully as there's two parts to the story🙏🏻.
Part one:
My SP & i known each other for a year now. We met at work. At first she was very attracted to me, later i made the classic mistake of being too available & attached. It was until i said i love her everything was going smoothly. When i said i love her, i expected either rejection or acceptance since she was into me already. Pls note i never approached her in a dirty way or behaved in any bad manner. Some experts label my problem as "Nice Guy Syndrome". But i'd say not every man is a player or needs to behave like one.
Anyways. she went to complete safe mode when i told her about my feelings. She told me about her past breakup which still haunts her, after that whenever she tried to get involved with someone it didnt work out. Therefore she dont want to risk making a bad relation with me. I tired to convince her that she needs to let her past go, she said she's is not ready and asked me to wait & give her time.
I respected that and told i will wait. Fair enough. 8 months passed, each month she seemed getting far away from me & lost attraction to me, she saw i was desperate, another mistake but I never tried to force myself to her during these time, then COVID happened (or still happening!).
Right now our situation is neutral, in middle there was a time when she saw me emotionally hurting & told me to move on but i couldn't. Clearly i gave her too much control & power, and she misused it. We talk sometime now, we have a good understanding of each other, no bitterness or hard feeling about me, most importantly she understands that i love her truly and wants to make her happy. She admits that i am a good man for her, yet she is not ready to commit, in short it is not going anywhere. Last month she said she want to give our relationship a try, i made a song for her on her birthday when she said that, which she really liked and showed her affection, i thought things would move forward but didn't. This month she says she's confused and not ready for it!
I strongly feel seeking therapy would really help her, which she admit as well. But she won't seek a councillor because she is too prideful & stubborn to do that. I cant force her to seek one, it won't be right thing to do. I don't want to force or push things as LOA doesnt work that way. I don't meet her often either, its been more than 3 months we met.
Part two:
I have been practising LOA for 2 years now, my manifestation power has became stronger in the first year. But since i fell in love & became weak for this girl, i have seen my LOA power has gone weaker. I have been meditating & working on myself heavily in last 3 months. Things are improving a lot. I am quite stable in COVID-19 (leaving all by myself for 4 months and holding strong). Lot of times i feel lonely, frustrated & angry because for her resistance, but i can manage to calm myself pretty quickly. In last two months i have manifested help i need, money & things on demand. Right I am trying to up level my game on self love and worth.
My question:
What should i be doing/focusing to get her into my life? i know putting time limit won't help much or will it? What can i do to improve & speed up the process. I strongly feel in my gut & sixth sense tells me that i am very close to a breakthrough. I have dreams & vision of having a romantic time with her. Infact it's getting easier for me to visualize end result sessions, "Living togther, family interaction etc"
Currently i'm not trying to contact her unless it's required for work, even though she answers my text EVERY TIME no matter what. She is reluctant to answer my call, yet if i call she picks ups. I can feel hesitation in her voice to talk freely like before, because she is scared and confused and her subconscious mind forcefully keeping her away from getting into relationship with me. Im trying not to talk about my feelings and stuff on text or call. Avoiding that totally, but how long and what should i be doing now? I can't ignore her completely because of work, i cant go back to my old routine or personality when i met her, i tried that it didn't work. She is consciously alert of me now every time i text her or she text me. What do i do?
Thank you for reading the long reply, i appreciate it most and hope for your valuable guidance🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Aref
Last edited by arefxp (7/17/2020 10:19 pm)
Posted by VeronicaAdmin 7/18/2020 10:31 am | #2 |
Thanks for sharing your story, and I'm happy to help. It is true that putting a time limit may cause you to feel stress, when you would rather want to generate good feelings towards her and to the situation as a whole. Keep feeling you are close to a breakthrough. It's good you aren't trying to contact her, unless out of necessity. I wouldn't assume she is reluctant, instead start telling a new story. I would also try to ditch the story about her being scared and confused, and especially leave the story behind that says her subconscious mind is keeping her away from you! I would try to rework these ideas and watch how the results will be different.
Veronica xxoo
Posted by arefxp 7/18/2020 10:51 am | #3 |
Hi Veronica, thank you for your reply. I really appreciate it❤️
From your suggestion what i gathered few things i need to work on. I'm putting the tasks in order, please take a look and let me know if that's in the right direction or something more required🙏🏻
1: Practise self confidence & Love
2: Visualize and practice only positive thoughts & outcome with her (end/desired result)
3: Practise repelling/removing negative/self sabotaging thoughts with meditation/affirmations/subliminals etc
4: Focusing on my career, health and trying best to be happy as much i can.
5: When contacting her for work or she does keep a neutral yet happy/positive approach. Not showing affection, neither bad vibration or anger or complain.
6: Operate or make no decision while feeling angry or frustrated.
7: At the end of the day, Trust god that i am being helped, guided & my desires are coming to fruition sooner than i expect.
If you think these are enough or anything you would like to add please let me know. Will get into a coaching call help to improve this situation?
Two thing i want to mention,
One: While im visualizing her with end result, lots of negative memory kicks in when she behave rude with me or resisted to talk to me. Those moment i just get up and start walking. Is there anything else i should do in this kind of situation?
Two: What if we are talking and our relationship issue comes up, lets say she is trying to talk me out of it to change my mind. Should i avoid discussing it or try to reason with her.
I really appreciate your suggestion🙏🏻
Regards
Posted by Gabris 6/20/2022 3:24 am | #4 |
Thanks