i have put two and two together three times now and have concluded that my love is nearly devoured by a guilt complex.  i don't know the whys and wherefores.  i only know that he is facing a really dire circumstance right now and honestly have gotten so comfortable not reaching out to him; only responding.  tell me if a guilt complex can lead to such severe depression that it goes to suicide (which he's mentioned having contemplated in the past, and yet i know we ALL do at some point in our lives).

i don't want to reach out preemptively unless absolutely necessary.  it was hard enough to get to the comfort stage of never initiating contact.