Anita wrote:

 But Cynthia replied on my question, that it is not how it works

You asked in your original post if you could just focus on yourself and forget about him and if doing this will cause him to text you again one day. Cynthia told you that’s not how it works, and I agree. Doing that is NOT living in the wish fulfilled. Living in the wish fulfilled is feeling and thinking from already having the relationship. Yes, living in the wish fulfilled is possible without visualization, because it’s the feeling that’s important, not the scene. But, you say you can’t even think about him right now without getting upset. Therefore, you aren’t ready to live in the wish fulfilled. I suggest you read Neville because you seem very confused right now.