Aquilina wrote:

I just searched Neville Goddard and my special number appeared twice haha. I guess I should check him out too xD

I need someone to talk to. I'm freaking out. Please, can i talk to you?

oceanitrogen wrote:

I don't know if this is the way I can talk to all of you, but today I was feeling so positive. And then I decided to log into his instagram account. He changed all of his passwords except for the instagram one. And I created his instagram. He doesn't like it, he doesn't use it. Anyway, the last time I logged into his instagram I delete our conversation and I stopped following ome of his friends so I think he knows I was there. And today I logged in and he had a conversation with a friend of his and she's a lesbian but he said e needed to talk to her and that she was amazing in their school project and then he joked that he loved her and I don't know what to think of it. Because he always had girl friends. He's a sensitive boy also. He talks about his feelings with his girl friends. Always has. He used to talk about me to this girl before we knew we liked each other all the time and he told me when we started dating that all he talked abut with her was me. So maybe it's that. But I don't know. I'm so sad now. I was so positive. I don't now if I give up or keep trying. He's the love of my life but want the person he used to be, not the one he's being right now. I want the lovely, sensitive, caring boy I met. I want him to feel all the things he used to feel for me. I want him to move mountains for me again and love me with all his heart. Because guys, i know I deserve it, specially because I've changed and I would be so much better for me and for him if we got back together. I just, how can we be forever and then not be anymore?

Every part of this is focusing on the outside world. The outside world isn't where change happens.

You have to develop security because everything you've just said is based on insecurity, need, fear and desperation. Nothing can change as long as you keep doing things like that and feeling that way. Don't log into his instagram account, don't even use your own instagram account to look at his. One of Veronica's videos in the specific person series is entirely about NOT checking social media and it's mentioned in a lot of videos.

You can't have a quick fix for this, you have to do the inner work. You will have to face parts of yourself that you don't want to look at. You have to find who you are without this person. You have to love yourself without this person. Only then can you attract this person.

"He's the love of my life but  want the person he used to be, not the one he's being right now. I want the lovely, sensitive, caring boy I met. I want him to feel all the things he used to feel for me. I want him to move mountains for me again and love me with all his heart. Because guys, i know I deserve it, specially because I've changed and I would be so much better for me and for him if we got back together".

What you said there, you are making entirely about him, when it is entirely about you. You are the only one that can create the outcome you want. His behaviour can't change until your feelings within yourself change. That's how it works.

I don't mean to sound harsh in what I've said, but you have to start thinking about this in a different way.





 

Aquilina wrote:

oceanitrogen wrote:

I don't know if this is the way I can talk to all of you, but today I was feeling so positive. And then I decided to log into his instagram account. He changed all of his passwords except for the instagram one. And I created his instagram. He doesn't like it, he doesn't use it. Anyway, the last time I logged into his instagram I delete our conversation and I stopped following ome of his friends so I think he knows I was there. And today I logged in and he had a conversation with a friend of his and she's a lesbian but he said e needed to talk to her and that she was amazing in their school project and then he joked that he loved her and I don't know what to think of it. Because he always had girl friends. He's a sensitive boy also. He talks about his feelings with his girl friends. Always has. He used to talk about me to this girl before we knew we liked each other all the time and he told me when we started dating that all he talked abut with her was me. So maybe it's that. But I don't know. I'm so sad now. I was so positive. I don't now if I give up or keep trying. He's the love of my life but want the person he used to be, not the one he's being right now. I want the lovely, sensitive, caring boy I met. I want him to feel all the things he used to feel for me. I want him to move mountains for me again and love me with all his heart. Because guys, i know I deserve it, specially because I've changed and I would be so much better for me and for him if we got back together. I just, how can we be forever and then not be anymore?

Every part of this is focusing on the outside world. The outside world isn't where change happens.

You have to develop security because everything you've just said is based on insecurity, need, fear and desperation. Nothing can change as long as you keep doing things like that and feeling that way. Don't log into his instagram account, don't even use your own instagram account to look at his. One of Veronica's videos in the specific person series is entirely about NOT checking social media and it's mentioned in a lot of videos.

You can't have a quick fix for this, you have to do the inner work. You will have to face parts of yourself that you don't want to look at. You have to find who you are without this person. You have to love yourself without this person. Only then can you attract this person.

"He's the love of my life but  want the person he used to be, not the one he's being right now. I want the lovely, sensitive, caring boy I met. I want him to feel all the things he used to feel for me. I want him to move mountains for me again and love me with all his heart. Because guys, i know I deserve it, specially because I've changed and I would be so much better for me and for him if we got back together".

What you said there, you are making entirely about him, when it is entirely about you. You are the only one that can create the outcome you want. His behaviour can't change until your feelings within yourself change. That's how it works.

I don't mean to sound harsh in what I've said, but you have to start thinking about this in a different way.





 

It wan't harsh, it was he truth. You're really kind! I'm so grateful to you for taking the time and help me! It's just that for the last two years we were inseparable. The thought of him liking someone else hurts me. I just want someone to reassure me that he still loves me. He always loved me so much, it's impossible for him to not love me now, right? And he also said to his friend that he needs to tell her someting and "it's not like he's going to declare himself to her". I think he did it on purpose for me to see because he talks to her on whatsapp, not on instagram and he knows I have his password. How can I remain positive when the one I love is doing something like that for me to see it?

oceanitrogen wrote:

fizzy wrote:

Aquilina wrote:

Sounds like there is quite a bit of material about his teachings. Is there anything specific you'd recommend?

This is a good starting point:

https://youtu.be/YccI-t1yojk

Also, his books and lectures are free online.

I just watched this video and I read a comment saying how complete and simple was what Neville was talking about and how it was the key to manifesting, but I don't understand what he is saying I thought my english was so good </3

Basically, the key to manifesting anything you want, including a relationship with a specific person, is to feel like you have it already. If you had the relationship right this very moment, who would you be? Would you be walking around feeling sad, desperate, and worried about other girls? No. You’d be feeling happy, relieved, and only focused on you and him. Reality is created from the inside out. You are the projector, and all of reality is just the projection. You have to change inside before you will see change in the outside world. Whatever you firmly believe to be true is what will manifest in reality. It has no choice but to manifest, because that’s how reality works. So there’s no need to figure out why he’s doing things or try to reach a certain point in “self love” etc. I’m not saying loving yourself is bad. It’s good to give love to yourself and find out what beliefs caused your current situation to manifest, so that you can deal with them and it won’t happen again. But, loving yourself isn’t what actually manifests the relationship. What manifests is what you believe. Believe that this person loves you and that you have the relationship now, and that’s what you’ll get.

Last edited by fizzy (9/06/2018 9:08 am)

oceanitrogen wrote:

fizzy wrote:

Aquilina wrote:

Sounds like there is quite a bit of material about his teachings. Is there anything specific you'd recommend?

This is a good starting point:

https://youtu.be/YccI-t1yojk

Also, his books and lectures are free online.

I just watched this video and I read a comment saying how complete and simple was what Neville was talking about and how it was the key to manifesting, but I don't understand what he is saying I thought my english was so good </3

 
I'm not sure what you meant by you couldn't understand what he was saying. If you meant you couldn't understand him from the way he spoke, his voice or his 'accent', so to speak, as fizzy said, you can find his books and lectures in written form free online. Fizzy has given you a good explanation of how this works. Neville essentially taught from his own experience that imagination creates reality and to live from the end of the wish fulfilled, which means as if it is yours already, but in your imagination, with 'sensory vividness', as he called it. This means that you make the end result as real as possible in your imagination by the use of your senses. For example, in your imagination, you might see objects in the room around you or feel yourself holding something in your hand.  This is something that you only need to do for a few minutes a day, consistently, Neville recommended before sleep because it is one of the best times, it doesn't mean that you have to try to force yourself to do this 24/7. In fact, force is counterproductive. Force doesn't work. There is a vast difference between thinking of something and from it. He said that imaginal acts harden into facts over time if persisted in, which means that if you imagine something consistently for a long enough time, it will become a reality. First you have to know and be clear about what it is that you want. As fizzy said, loving yourself is a good thing for your own sake and benefit, but it is not what manifests anything, and it is not necessary to manifesting, and neither is feeling happy or good. You can be deeply depressed and manifest something good because I've done it myself.  When Neville spoke about feeling being the secret, he didn't mean emotions like being happy or excited, he meant feeling as though something was already true, like you already have whatever it is.