Uh oh... help?

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Posted by luckygirl77
6/24/2018 11:13 am
#1

Okay so I posted in the 'calling all success stories' bout my success story. My boyfriend came back ! Well, he reached out to me.
And it took me days to reply cuz i was scared, also i didn't know what to say. But I finally did it and we were texting back and forth just briefly, catching up over some stuff. Then I stopped replying cuz I fell asleep.
But then today, he didnt try reaching out to me at all. See I hate t when he stops replying cuz that's what I fear the most. Being made out like I'm the desperate and needy one.
So i decided to play it cool and reached out first. I sent him a meme. I thought it was funny and reminded me of him but now he's giving me short answer replies, when yesterday he''d give me long messages.

I don't get it? What's going on? I dont wanna play mind games anymore and I don't wanna play hard to get. It's exhausting. What should i do? Is he messing with me?
I thought I finally attracted him back when he finally reached out to me after a year but it doesn't seem like it...
help?

 
Posted by Selfloveiskey
6/24/2018 3:58 pm
#2

You are waaaay too caught up in him that's why. You are so focused on what you are getting and not getting. Be happy when you do get response but don't try to decode them. When you do that it shows how they still control your happiness and your say. Relax be happy he is responding and when you aren't talking focus on other things . You still need to be yourself and just do things you enjoy not let this make or break your day. This is happening because I can tell you are still so very attached.

 
Posted by fizzy
6/24/2018 10:40 pm
#3

I agree with Selfloveiskey. And I’d like to add that you should work on releasing the fear of losing him. You can’t ever lose someone. Even if it seems like you have, you can always manifest them back into your life. It’s not worth it to live with this constant fear. This person isn’t the source of your happiness. It’s fine that they bring you happiness, but it’s you who is the source of it all.

 
Posted by luckygirl77
6/26/2018 12:02 pm
#4

Thanks for the reply you guys. Ya'll are right. I think I'm just too fixated on what he should be doing. Like I've my expectations up for some reason. I mean it's great that now he opened up communication, I just don't know where to go from here. 
Like we started talking but its not like what I hoped for. nothing romantic or sweet, or anything flirty, no indication that he wants to reconcile or still have feelings for me. Sometimes when I reply to his messages, I feel like I'm back to being the one who's trying too hard and his responses started becoming 'disinterested' if you know what I mean. 
Last night we texted and he didn't seem like he was really interested in what I had to say, i mean he replied but he didn't seem eager to talk to me or focused on the convo. And he even stopped replying at one point. I don't know if he's playing hard to get with me but he definitely isn't trying with me.
This morning, I woke up and didn't get any messages from him but I noticed that he liked his ex's tweets.
But I didn't let it get to me and shrugged it off. 
How do I get him to you know... I don't know be more interested in reconciling or at the very least, interested in me again?

 
Posted by Sunshine&Dreams
6/26/2018 12:25 pm
#5

What I get from your message is still a fixation. You can say you don't care and that it didn't bother you, but that you focused on it speaks more than what you say. Just like when you say he doesn't seem interested. You're focusing on what HE is doing, versus you. It's your perception. Work on self-love, work on listening to Agnes Vivarelli ono Youtube for the affirmations.

All of that is neediness for him to be there to make you happy is going to bring less because you're focused on the lack of it. Focus on you. The advice here isn't meant to be harsh as we've ALL been there in some form or another, lol. But focus on you, not what he's doing, not his actions, and never ever keep up with them on social media. You go looking for something, you're going to find something bad. Never fails. I rarely follow someone I'm interested in (I unfollowed my SP shortly before putting foot down and never check his profile). Focus on self lovin. In your mind, visualize him being much more happy and cheerful, much more loving and open toward you. You're still manifesting his blase attitude.

 


 
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