Posted by Adrita  3/30/2018 1:39 am | #21 |
fizzy wrote:
I had the chat of WhatsApp, i wasnt able to erase it, and a saw the blank space instead of the picture. I just wanna look at his profile picture, and i search on instagram... Just to see his profile picture, because i erase him from my friend list days ago, to give him space.. And... Thats when i knew it. I supose its a normal reacting of the old days...but i felt like a punch in my heart. Right now, i dont Know what to do... So, i need some guidance...i can't stop crying, and i felt guilty of blocking him first, even if my intentions where good... Maybe i Hurt him... Or he's mad, Or just decided to let me go For good. Will you please, please help me?? I really want to fix it all, and share my life with this man. Thank you fizzy, For beeing here Right now.
There is no need to be looking at his profile picture. You are staying very focused on current reality and because of that, nothing can change. It doesn’t matter why he blocked you, the message is loud and clear. He needs space from you. If you love him like you say, you will allow him this space. I’ve already told you what you need to do to get what you want. As soon as you take my advice, things will start moving in the direction you want. But until then, it’s all just going to stay the same.
I Know, i just want to look at his face...silly mistake. Do i have to unblock him? After all i Know i must stay away and focus on positive thoughts. And let him come to me at the right time.
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Posted by fizzy 3/30/2018 1:47 am | #22 |
I Know, i just want to look at his face...silly mistake. Do i have to unblock him? After all i Know i must stay away and focus on positive thoughts. And let him come to me at the right time.
You don’t have to unblock him but if it will make you feel better, then I think you should. That’s all your focus should be right now. Feeling better. Don’t do things that could hurt you like looking at things you shouldn’t. Yes I agree that you should stay away and let him come to you. It’s ok to look at pictures you might have of him but don’t go on social media to do it.
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Posted by Cynthia 3/30/2018 3:45 am | #23 |
I agree with what fizzy has told you. You are obsessing over your SP and putting so much focus on the current reality that far from getting your SP back faster you are making it take longer and longer, and it won't even begin to happen until you stop doing this. Desperation will keep anything away from you as well as anything can. If social media is a source of pain and torment to you, just don't look at it at all. Be kind to yourself. Be calm. All is not lost.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who has run out of ideas.
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Posted by Adrita 3/30/2018 10:09 am | #24 |
I Know, i just want to look at his face...silly mistake. Do i have to unblock him? After all i Know i must stay away and focus on positive thoughts. And let him come to me at the right time.
You don’t have to unblock him but if it will make you feel better, then I think you should. That’s all your focus should be right now. Feeling better. Don’t do things that could hurt you like looking at things you shouldn’t. Yes I agree that you should stay away and let him come to you. It’s ok to look at pictures you might have of him but don’t go on social media to do it.
OK, i Will follow your advierte. Thank you
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Posted by Adrita 3/30/2018 10:12 am | #25 |
I agree with what fizzy has told you. You are obsessing over your SP and putting so much focus on the current reality that far from getting your SP back faster you are making it take longer and longer, and it won't even begin to happen until you stop doing this. Desperation will keep anything away from you as well as anything can. If social media is a source of pain and torment to you, just don't look at it at all. Be kind to yourself. Be calm. All is not lost.
Some days i think i am getting crazy jajaja 
honestly. I Will try... Today Will be focus on good things... Thank you cynthia. I think i've never loved somebody the way that i love him. Its hard for me to stay away.... But i Will. Thank you.
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Posted by fizzy 3/30/2018 11:02 am | #26 |
OK, i Will follow your advierte. Thank you
You’re welcome 
Just remember that even though you love him, it’s healthy to have your own interests and to be ok when you’re not with him. Even if you were together right now, it’s still good to have your own interests and goals apart from the relationship. You have the opportunity to get those things for yourself right now.
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Posted by Adrita 4/04/2018 6:12 am | #27 |
Some friend told me that i need to start doing my grieve instead of try to atract my love back. She told me that i was making longer my pain and that my love is moving on, she also assure me that he's really happy whitout me, and he is having fun and smiling all the time. .. I've tried to explain about LOA, and she answered that it sounds beatiuful, but im lossing my life and Wasting my time. i refused to believe that... I Know that he Will be here with me at the right time. But with all the things that had happened lately its Hard to ignore, and to keep positive thoughts...will you please help me? He hasn't even unblocked me, and and that makes me feel, rejected, sad, anxious, and from time to time angry.
People around me are telling me that i must forget about him, everyone except For my Mother. She's the only one supporting me. I Know that i do love him, and i want us to be together For life.
I've quit social media and I do revisions (Neville's) visualización, lately i've been doing whispering technique.... I've read about self love.... And im trying so hard no to loose my hope...please please, give me some guidance.
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Posted by fizzy 4/04/2018 7:23 am | #28 |
Some friend told me that i need to start doing my grieve instead of try to atract my love back. She told me that i was making longer my pain and that my love is moving on, she also assure me that he's really happy whitout me, and he is having fun and smiling all the time. .. I've tried to explain about LOA, and she answered that it sounds beatiuful, but im lossing my life and Wasting my time.
People around me are telling me that i must forget about him, everyone except For my Mother. She's the only one supporting me. I Know that i do love him, and i want us to be together For life.
I've quit social media and I do revisions (Neville's) visualización, lately i've been doing whispering technique.... I've read about self love.... And im trying so hard no to loose my hope...please please, give me some guidance.
Don’t tell anyone you’re planning to attract him back with the LOA. Unless those people are like-minded, like we are on this forum, that often doesn’t go well and can set you back. You’re only going to continue to slow things down if you keep focusing on still being blocked, him moving on, etc. If you really quit social media, you wouldn’t even be noticing if you’re still blocked or not. I think right now you are doing things out of desperation, and you need to still just focus on yourself until you’re feeling better.
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Posted by Adrita 4/04/2018 11:55 am | #29 |
Some friend told me that i need to start doing my grieve instead of try to atract my love back. She told me that i was making longer my pain and that my love is moving on, she also assure me that he's really happy whitout me, and he is having fun and smiling all the time. .. I've tried to explain about LOA, and she answered that it sounds beatiuful, but im lossing my life and Wasting my time.
People around me are telling me that i must forget about him, everyone except For my Mother. She's the only one supporting me. I Know that i do love him, and i want us to be together For life.
I've quit social media and I do revisions (Neville's) visualización, lately i've been doing whispering technique.... I've read about self love.... And im trying so hard no to loose my hope...please please, give me some guidance.Don’t tell anyone you’re planning to attract him back with the LOA. Unless those people are like-minded, like we are on this forum, that often doesn’t go well and can set you back. You’re only going to continue to slow things down if you keep focusing on still being blocked, him moving on, etc. If you really quit social media, you wouldn’t even be noticing if you’re still blocked or not. I think right now you are doing things out of desperation, and you need to still just focus on yourself until you’re feeling better.
About being blocked, i just can see it on WhatsApp. About he is moving on... People are telling me without asking of course some days i feel desperate and even depressed. But there are many days, or mostly all day when I feel confident and secure. We work at the same place, we live really near. People around us is the same. Its Hard For me to stay focus because of the situation.
Im trying really Hard to be ok with my self, but my lifestyle Its no common at all, i travel all the time because of my work and he was my home...
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Posted by Cynthia 4/04/2018 12:23 pm | #30 |
Some friend told me that i need to start doing my grieve instead of try to atract my love back. She told me that i was making longer my pain and that my love is moving on, she also assure me that he's really happy whitout me, and he is having fun and smiling all the time. .. I've tried to explain about LOA, and she answered that it sounds beatiuful, but im lossing my life and Wasting my time.
People around me are telling me that i must forget about him, everyone except For my Mother. She's the only one supporting me. I Know that i do love him, and i want us to be together For life.
I've quit social media and I do revisions (Neville's) visualización, lately i've been doing whispering technique.... I've read about self love.... And im trying so hard no to loose my hope...please please, give me some guidance.Don’t tell anyone you’re planning to attract him back with the LOA. Unless those people are like-minded, like we are on this forum, that often doesn’t go well and can set you back. You’re only going to continue to slow things down if you keep focusing on still being blocked, him moving on, etc. If you really quit social media, you wouldn’t even be noticing if you’re still blocked or not. I think right now you are doing things out of desperation, and you need to still just focus on yourself until you’re feeling better.
About being blocked, i just can see it on WhatsApp. About he is moving on... People are telling me without asking
Im trying really Hard to be ok with my self, but my lifestyle Its no common at all, i travel all the time because of my work and he was my home...
It was the same with me. My mum was the only one who was supportive about my being with my SP, and she's dead and gone now. Don't listen to other people. Like fizzy said, don't talk to people about loa who aren't like minded. They will only tell you the same sort of things you've been told, and that will only interfere. If whatsapp is showing you things that aren't in your best interests to see, then just don't look. If you really want this SP, you've got to do whatever it takes to stay focussed on that and not be distracted by other people or social media or anything else that's going to give you negative messages about it. If you weren't struggling, you wouldn't keep asking for help. Help yourself more by avoiding these negative distractions as much as you possibly can and keep imagining having the ideal relationship you want with your SP as if you have it right now. The only thing that matters is what you believe, not what anybody else thinks or says about it. As Neville said in his lecture, Brazen Impudence, you are the only one who can keep you from having your desire by failing to persist in imagining it into creation. I'm paraphrasing because I can't remember his exact words, but that's what he was saying.
Last edited by Cynthia (4/04/2018 12:32 pm)
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