Im completely devastated.
My ex came back a few weeks after our seperation and he confessed me his love and how much he missed me. I thougth: Ive done it. of course, he loves me. Otherwise he wouldnt have come back.
Since 2 months we are back in contact, I noticed a change but I kept going. I did lanies technique, whispering technique, working on my self love. The last week his texts got more and more sexual to the point where I clearly told him: I dont want this to go in the direction of just hooking up.
what he then told me CRUSHED me and shocked so deeply: "but this is going great. Way better than our relationship before. The only difference is that now, the center of our relationship is sex, and we dont to stuff around it anymore."
I COULDNT BELIEVE THIS. We met 2 months regularly, and he just wanted to hook up. We were a f.... COUPLE BEFORE. He wanted to sincerely MARRY me. he wanted KIDS with me!
Of course, I am NOT having intimacies with him ANYMORE . If I had known his intentions I would NEVER have slept with him again.
I just cant believe it. I mean, seriously, an ex who comes back after a S E R I O U S relationship (I was part of his FAMILY!) just wants to have sex.
I dont know how to cope with being used for sex. I want him to see me as the woman of his life, as he did in the beginning. I cant understand how his perception of me could change so drastically. And I didnt even act needily. My vibration certainly did....