Self love.

I have been reading lots of posts where people talk about self love and manifesting. There seems to be some confusion that to manifest one must love themselves. Or others that state self love has nothing to do with manifesting your POI. It results in statements such as "I have been doing self love, but he hasn't come back etc etc ...." Or "Self love has nothing to do with manifesting someone back"

What self love isn't?

Self love is not a manifesting tool/process like scripting, visualisation, RS etc. You don't do self love to bring someone back.

It's also not a ten minute meditation. Self love is change in your self talk and how you see and value yourself.


What do you gain from increasing self love?

Self love creates fertile ground to allow your desires to be nurtured and become bountiful. When you tend to yourself and your insecurities you don't look outside of yourself for validation - and this forms healthier more equal relationships. When you go inside and iron out your limiting beliefs and remove old programs you become more receptive to taking up and maintaining new beliefs and states that are more aligned with your end desire.

"Self-love is important to living well. It influences who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work, and how you cope with the problems in your life.  Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good.

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us.

When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our short-comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts."
(https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-hardy/201203/seven-step-prescription-self-love?amp)


Why practice self love?

In the topic of trying to attract a specific person self love is promoted because most people are trying to manifest a person from a previous relationship - in which the break - up has been caused by a disconnection with the person from their inner being.

Often the desire to have the person back is driven by an inner lack. Self love allows you to change perspective on your inner self,  and tend to your lack of self worth.

Tiny Buddha says it nicely when he says

"Even if we land the best partner on the planet, this person won’t be able to make us happy and feel loved unless we create the space for it inside by practicing self-love. This is why self-love is an inside job."
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/what-self-love-means-20-ways-be-good-to-yourself/