Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum / Building myself up

**Posted by Bellecat** 1/01/2018 9:02 pm

I am currently trying to love myself after I had a guy completely take me by surprise and break my heart.

Weren’t in a relationship we’d be on and off since may last year I even got in a relationship with another guy after he told me to get lost. I was with this other guy for two months and then we broke up.

Of course G came back. Skip to Christmas where I was fed up of it and knowing we were close I asked him what was going on. He replied he didn’t want a relationship with any one and so I backed off, and he replied asking I don’t want some fun? I replied what happens when I meet Mr Right. He said it wouldn’t be easy to let me go as he does care about me but he would or something.

I stopped talking to and a day or so later he contacted me late at night and he got jealous that I’d find another guy hey, and he was like take care of something and I said something about having to get over him first and it went from there and we got close and he said he loves my body and I asked even my soul and he replied yes.

Not long after that we went to sleep and he went silent for a day and then texts me he’s seeing someone and to take care and I’m blocked.

Now I need to build myself back up but I feel like I’m not worth it or good enough.
No idea if she actually exists or he’s running away from feelings.

**Posted by PrettyFlamingo** 1/02/2018 3:11 am

He's an immature idiot from his behaviour. He's the one who isn't good enough and I think deep down you know you deserve a respectful adult, not a childish person who asks if you want some fun! Someone who doesn't treat you like a plaything but respects you. He sounds like a complete waste of space. It's all about you, he's not worth a second thought. Guys like that really make me cross. Don't play his silly games, move on from him and focus on yourself. You're worth a zillion of him.

**Posted by Sanshi** 1/02/2018 6:33 am

Bellecat wrote:
Now I need to build myself back up but I feel like I’m not worth it or good enough.

That's the very reason why he can treat you like this. I am always surprised how people bring on reasons over reasons why something happened. This is a LoA forum and the LoA teachers that know what they are talking about tell you that there is only one cause and that's you. It's not about the guy or a girl, it's not that he is an idiot, it's not that he is afraid to admit something. There is not one cause within the situation. The only cause for that experience is your consciousness and that's where you should start (and end).

**Posted by PrettyFlamingo** 1/02/2018 6:39 am

Sanshi - I agree with you 100% on all you have said - but the guy IS an idiot. By my reckoning, and from what you say too, people who feel they aren't worth it or good enough - as I know from my teenage and 20s experiences - attract this sort of character who then feeds into those feelings and perpetuates them - it certainly happened to me. Your last sentence of your reply hits the nail on the head I think.

**Posted by Bellecat** 1/02/2018 6:40 am

I was saying I need to love myself because I don’t.

Oh everyone always feels that way!

**Posted by PrettyFlamingo** 1/02/2018 6:59 am

You know, I think we all - me included - need to understand what loving yourself, and respecting yourself, mean. I'm not sure I know the difference or indeed if there is any.

**Posted by Sanshi** 1/02/2018 7:22 am

PrettyFlamingo wrote:
Sanshi - I agree with you 100% on all you have said - but the guy IS an idiot. By my reckoning, and from what you say too, people who feel they aren't worth it or good enough - as I know from my teenage and 20s experiences - attract this sort of character who then feeds into those feelings and perpetuates them - it certainly happened to me. Your last sentence of your reply hits the nail on the head I think.

I would distinguish between the state and the person. His behavior is that of an idiot, sure. But that has nothing to do with him, but what is projected onto him. It doesn't really have relevance that he behaves like an idiot, because there is nothing to change here. It's like complaining about a dirty shirt. Yes, it is dirty, but complaining about the shirt won't change anything regardless of how many people you tell about it and how much you agree with them that it's worth judging that it's dirty. Point is that there is only one power and the moment you give the slightest of that power away, you make yourself a victim and that's what 99,9 % of the people do and why they fail. Every single time we feel bad about something, we give power away.

**Posted by Laura1234** 1/02/2018 9:54 am

I agree with Sanshi and sorry Pretty flamingo, but you very often give a advices from non Loa perspective.

**Posted by PrettyFlamingo** 1/02/2018 10:20 am

Laura1234 wrote:
I agree with Sanshi and sorry Pretty flamingo, but you very often give a advices from non Loa perspective.

Perhaps I don't belong on this forum, then.

**Posted by PrettyFlamingo** 1/02/2018 10:30 am

Sanshi wrote:
I would distinguish between the state and the person. His behavior is that of an idiot, sure. But that has nothing to do with him, but what is projected onto him. It doesn't really have relevance that he behaves like an idiot, because there is nothing to change here. It's like complaining about a dirty shirt. Yes, it is dirty, but complaining about the shirt won't change anything regardless of how many people you tell about it and how much you agree with them that it's worth judging that it's dirty. Point is that there is only one power and the moment you give the slightest of that power away, you make yourself a victim and that's what 99,9 % of the people do and why they fail. Every single time we feel bad about something, we give power away.

Which is what I am getting at - why would you give the time of day to someone who is behaving in that way towards you? Move away from them focus on yourself and spend your time with people who deserve it. Is that Law of Attraction? Or is it common sense? Or am I wrong?

I am clearly not "getting it" as I have been told off by two different posters in the last couple of days about my comments.