I think if we think that our ex thinks this about us then it will be reality. We are our own obstacle! So it’s shifting that thought to “I am living life, I am not waiting around. My ex is coming to me!”. I think the important thing is to feel confident, go out and have fun, try new things and just enjoy life. And I think your love will sense this shift immediately! And then be drawn to you like a moth to a light haha