LotsOfLove wrote:
Thank you for your response. I was just wondering if it would be possible. I also understand your thoughts when you ask why I would want him back...
I didn't mean to sound judgemental, but I've had a lot of life experience and have seen a lot of misery caused to the women by men like this who won't get a divorce for some reason, not necessarily this reason, and the other woman has been the one who has suffered the most for it. I know - the heart wants what the heart wants. I understand. It is theoretically possible to do almost anything by using the imagination in the right way, but you'd have your work cut out for you. Even though he's not been living by his 'religious beliefs', if he's had them since childhood or for many years, they are very likely deeply ingrained. I'm the last person to tell anybody to give up on their dreams, but just make sure this is what you really want before you put any more of your energy into it. You've already been hurt a lot by this person and his actions. He's treated you very badly. I'm sure there is at least one other man in the world somewhere who would be free of other entanglements and would love and appreciate you, so just think about that possibility. If you still want the person in question, then do what Neville says about living in the end of the wish fulfilled and ignore everything that is contrary to that, but you have to have faith and believe you can have it and be patient and persistent.