Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum / Self Love

**Posted by Stacey** 8/15/2017 5:07 pm

This is overlooked so often and it's hindering more than helping. Happiness comes within you, you have to love yourself. Sure, material things and people can bring you happiness but you should never, ever make them the point of your happiness.

If you want to manifest anything work on making yourself happy, to get to where you want to be you have to know, trust and be happy enough to know it's there waiting and you also have to know that you'll be absolutely fine without it.

Once you reach this stage you will see the magic happen. Things that would have sent you on a downward spiral before are things you will now laugh off. You have a buffer of time, use it to your advantage. Your bad thoughts can't instantly pop into reality, imagine if every thought you had manifested instantly. Imagine that chaos.

So instead of sitting around wondering "Where's my desire", go for a walk, go buy a coffee, talk to a friend, pet a cat, do anything that'll make you happy.
Sometimes when we're obsessed with desires we often forget the rest of the good things we have, appreciate those. Put good out, get good back.
For someone else to truly love you, you have to love you.

**Posted by sweetlove1990** 8/15/2017 5:18 pm

Amen! You're a wonderful person! 🎉

**Posted by Lifesagas** 8/16/2017 1:06 am

For me, self-love is the absolute BEST thing about LOA.

I no longer doubt myself, I no longer waste time analysing if I did or didn't do the right thing in a situation, I no longer beat myself up for mistakes, I no longer worry about what people think of me and whether they like me or not. I no longer waste my emotions on people that don't give back. I no longer think 'but what's wrong with me?' if someone doesn't seem that into me. I don't get upset or angry about petty little annoyances.

I know who I am. I know my worth. I know what I want and what I don't want in life. I'm completely self-sufficient and happy and that means I don't need anything or anyone to make me happy or feel good or feel loved.

It changes everything and is SO liberating.

**Posted by PrettyFlamingo** 8/16/2017 2:01 am

Halleluiah for this.

**Posted by Kavik** 8/16/2017 11:35 am

I'm totally agree with you, the magic starts when we are happy and working for ourselves

**Posted by Colonel Roosevelt** 8/16/2017 11:49 am

What is a basic idea of LoA? Getting into the right vibration/ state of mind. What happens when we do self-love? We get into a better vibration/ better state of mind. Not always easy to practice though.

**Posted by Lifesagas** 8/16/2017 11:54 am

It's like anything else in LOA, it takes practice but it's so worth it.

I can't say I really care if I don't manifest anything I intend, the difference it has made to me and my life is worth it alone.

As RuPaul says (and others before him) if you don't love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love anyone else? 😊

**Posted by princessgirl87** 8/27/2017 3:21 pm

I have a radical take on this platitude of self love...

First off I wanna note that its nothing against anyone in this forum or this very thread (nothing against Stacey or Lifesagas, etc)...I just want to drop some food for thought...

The whole "You can't expect others to love you if you can't love yourself."
Or the other one "You can't love others unless you love yourself."

I think it's victim-blaming.
Blaming the person who hates themselves and they can't help because they don't know how to love themselves (or even other ppl)
who may have come from broken homes, or even if they didnt come from a broken home, they may be a perfectionist who insists their work is perfect to their liking, and if not then self-loathing begins...
More often than not the person has a mental illness and I feel like this platitude is low-key saying that the mentally ill who hate themselves are either worthless or the love they put out won't mean a darn thing.

And looking at it from a LOA perspective, what about good things happening to those who are always down in the dumps or Say, someone is down for most of the day and might fear bad things happening but the opposite of those things happen and everything is peachy keen. Sounds like the Law of Opposites, right?
That good things can still happen to the self-loathing.

All in all, I think these platitudes or so-called "words of wisdom" need to be reevaluated.

**Posted by Stacey** 8/27/2017 5:09 pm

I don't see it as victim blaming in the slightest. I live with mental illness and currently out of work due to other health reasons, I've been in absolutely horrible and emotionally abusive situations. While I'm not out of the woods with regards to my health I've started to pull myself out of the rut I've been in through learning to love myself for who I am.

Nobody is disputing that good things can come to those who have been down in the dumps and nobody has it together 100% of the time, I live with bipolar disorder, anxiety and have had issues with PTSD in the past so I can absolutely understand and relate to the whole feeling down and out thing, my moods can be awfully inconsistent. There has to be that drive and even a little bit of self-love to pull you out of the rut or situation you're in, don't get me wrong moral support is wonderful and has its place but you cannot help anybody who isn't willing to help themselves from a LOA standpoint or in general.

**Posted by Selfloveiskey** 8/27/2017 8:59 pm

Self love is important for anything. We can't see what someone feels about themselves but most of the time situations occur because of the lack of self love .