happyinlove wrote:
80saeaak wrote:
Yeah, projection could make a person not see worth that you don't see in yourself and could make his eye wander, but I think we give too many people passes with "I manifested this". We all have free will including these men. To become interested in another woman may be projected. To act on it is another story entirely. Some people have crap morals and that's just that.
The better question is why you don't think you're better than this? Why do you think you deserve a man who would knowingly hurt you, projected or not? You need to work on loving yourself because if you don't, you will continue to get more of the same from this man or someone entirely different. Self-love is ALWAYS the first step. People want to skip this and go straight for the "I need him back". Either your desperation to get him back will repel him or, if you get him back, it will be more of the same because you don't see your worth.
Step one: Forget about him. Once you stop visualizing him and changing your focus when he creeps into your head, it will only take a week or two to stop hurting and get an epiphany. I'm a cancer, too. That's not a pass. We all can control our emotions regardless of zodiac sign. It's about wanting to get over him. That's all it takes.
But what if you want your guy not sure if he did intentionally and you've seen him be better?
How does one unintentionally cheat? How does one unintentionally "play" another person? Accountability. He did what he did and you're doing what you're doing. You want him because you think you don't deserve better. You do. There's a man out there who will love your pretty little heart and you'll never have to wonder if he's playing you or looking for someone else. Know how you get that man (or this one)? Love yourself. If you're wanting a man who either doesn't want you, wants someone else, or intentionally hurt you, you do not love yourself. If you're setting yourself up for pain you don't have self-worth. You need to fill yourself with so much love that you don't need it from anyone else. You need to fill yourself with so much love that you never have to doubt another person. You need to fill yourself with so much love that you never have to manifest any pain. Everyone has fleeting thoughts. Those don't hurt you. Obsessive repeated thoughts can hurt you. Your obsessive repeated thoughts need to be "I am so wonderful. I love myself so much. I have such a beautiful soul. I have so much love for myself that no one can ever make me question my self worth". Again, let him go. If he's the one for you, he'll be back with so much love and devotion after you love yourself. If he's the one, you'll have no doubts or questions. The fact that you're doubting it says more than you realize. I see this plain as day- You lack self love, self worth, and self devotion. Learn it. Know it. Believe it. Then it all falls into place.
*edited: I misread. I thought you were the OP. You still need to work on you. If he's playing games, he's playing games. Manifest a loving relationship by starting with you. No man should make you doubt their love. If they do, it's from you. They can't love you properly if you can't love yourself.
Last edited by 80saeaak (6/06/2017 12:20 pm)
