Sit with it. What are you struggling against?

Okay now accept what is. Don't try to fight against it by shifting realities. You're only suppressing your resistance by doing that. Become okay with all that you just said. This is part of letting go.

I was at a low point last weekend. Nothing seemed to be "working" I cursed her name I got angry and pissed off. I knew I needed to allow these emotions to flow through me. I cried and I felt like utter ****. I doubted the whole process and I cursed myself for even wanting the desire in the first place. I allowed all of that. I just sat there and stayed like that for as long as I felt like it. You know what happened a couple hours later? I felt an incredible calm and peace flow through me. I felt the belief and positivity once again.I didn't have to try to shift to it it just came to me because I let go of all that I was trying to suppress.

Allow yourself to feel. This scenario is meant for you to clean out some of the muck in your vibration and the only way to achieve that is to allow it.

Yep, everything InLakEsch said worked for me. Nope, it won't push her away.

Have you ever had a day when you just felt so angry, jealous, and insecure? You try to focus on something else. You try to do your homework, go for a walk, watch a movie, anything to get your mind off of it. But you can't. Deep down, you're insecure and frustrated. This is what happened to me. I was jealous over an old flame when I heard she was dating someone new (after thinking letting her go would make her like me more). So what did I do? I got into competition mode. Tried to text her all the cute stuff hoping she'll like me back, and I was irritated when I didn't get a reply. (Actually, it was interesting - maybe she was in the love vibration hence the new guy and me trying to impress her, I was in the jealous vibration so of course I was miserable). I tried to get my mind off of her and focus on my work, but I just couldn't. I was thinking about her all day, I couldn't stop, it was unhealthy.

So I did something very different. I simply listened to a song on repeat that made me feel good: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-WPexVEujg

And meditated on my feelings. I allowed myself to feel the jealousy, the anger, the fear. All of it. I just felt it. I told myself "I feel jealousy. I feel fear. And it's OK. It's OK to feel. It's OK to feel fear. I am brave enough to accept my fear. I am brave enough to accept the way I feel. I know that I am OK." The more I felt my feelings and repeated that mantra, the more peaceful I felt. It took me 30 min and I just started laughing, it was like all the weight in me disappeared and I felt so light, free and happy. I could finally focus on my work again and feel good even without her. It was amazing!

This is a really good exercise that has the same concept: https://www.reddit.com/r/lawofattraction/comments/4z0p83/the_only_way_to_easy_manifestation_loving_yourself/

You might be thinking that if you allow yourself to feel your emotions, then it's bad because a lot of LoA stuff makes it seem like you must be positive all the time, feel love and happiness all day, imagine the end result a lot and feel the love. That is simply false. The idea that we have to be positive all the time, to distract ourselves with happy stuff to stay in a happy vibe 24/7, is not only false - it's unrealistic and terrible for your mental health. You can wear a mask of happiness and underneath that mask is the anger and fear in control, pushed down into the subconscious as it continues to paint its pattterns in your life. Being aware of your true emotions and just feeling them, letting them flow away, helps you release the negative patterns in your life.

The point is that allowing yourself to feel your emotions, yes - even emotions like fear and jealousy and anger, helps you make peace with them. Emotions are energy in motion, when you feel them they can flow again. The trick is to feel your emotions with a meditative, self-accepting attitude, but not to give in to the old negative stories. There's a difference between feeling fear and identifying yourself with the fear. Brave men feel fear and act anyway, accomplishing great things. Do you see the difference? The difference is awareness and intention. When you allow yourself to feel your feelings for the intention of healing and inner peace, you're aware of self-acceptance and self-love, not buying into the painful stories of the past. Plus, I have a theory that a lot of us may subconsciously be acting on certain desires because of unresolved emotions. When we meditate on those emotions and feel them and release them with awareness, we gain better self-control and wisdom over our own ego.

After I felt that release, I focused on acing my final exams for a week and then I decided that although I still didn't really want her back, I did genuinely appreciate her and I wanted to talk to her like we used to. She did have a history of never texting me back at times which used to make me feel bad, but after that self-love exercise, I just didn't care. If I texted her and she didn't respond, who cares? I have no more fear, I have only self-love. It didn't matter anymore if she liked me back or not because I just trusted that I am likable as I am. I believe in telepathy, that subconsciously we can sense each other, so I decided to just focus on what I appreciate about her and think back on the good times, sending that to her in telepathy as nothing more than an act of unconditional appreciation. So I texted her, no expectations. And she texted back. Very flirty. Even asking me multiple times to meet up with her. And I wasn't on cloud 9 or anything, I was just calm and appreciative about it all. Even after all that, she still texts me sometimes letting me know that she misses me and thinks about me often. Man, three years ago this was all I wanted and now I get it when I kind of don't care (or am I not fearful).

Anyway, the point is to practice self-acceptance, let yourself feel your emotions, accept where you are because hating yourself for being in this position won't help you, accepting things as they are for now can help you feel better where you are and gain clarity. A long time ago, practicing acceptance of myself and my life helped me heal my depression. I forgot about that, but now it makes sense with my other story. I can't promise that my story will work out the same for you, but from a place of self-acceptance, it's so much easier to create a better life for yourself and just live free again, feeling love.
 

Last edited by Colonel Roosevelt (12/17/2016 8:12 pm)

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

Yep, everything InLakEsch said worked for me. Nope, it won't push her away.

Have you ever had a day when you just felt so angry, jealous, and insecure? You try to focus on something else. You try to do your homework, go for a walk, watch a movie, anything to get your mind off of it. But you can't. Deep down, you're insecure and frustrated. This is what happened to me. I was jealous over an old flame when I heard she was dating someone new (after thinking letting her go would make her like me more). So what did I do? I got into competition mode. Tried to text her all the cute stuff hoping she'll like me back, and I was irritated when I didn't get a reply. (Actually, it was interesting - maybe she was in the love vibration hence the new guy and me trying to impress her, I was in the jealous vibration so of course I was miserable). I tried to get my mind off of her and focus on my work, but I just couldn't. I was thinking about her all day, I couldn't stop, it was unhealthy.

So I did something very different. I simply listened to a song on repeat that made me feel good: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-WPexVEujg

And meditated on my feelings. I allowed myself to feel the jealousy, the anger, the fear. All of it. I just felt it. I told myself "I feel jealousy. I feel fear. And it's OK. It's OK to feel. It's OK to feel fear. I am brave enough to accept my fear. I am brave enough to accept the way I feel. I know that I am OK." The more I felt my feelings and repeated that mantra, the more peaceful I felt. It took me 30 min and I just started laughing, it was like all the weight in me disappeared and I felt so light, free and happy. I could finally focus on my work again and feel good even without her. It was amazing!

This is a really good exercise that has the same concept: https://www.reddit.com/r/lawofattraction/comments/4z0p83/the_only_way_to_easy_manifestation_loving_yourself/

You might be thinking that if you allow yourself to feel your emotions, then it's bad because a lot of LoA stuff makes it seem like you must be positive all the time, feel love and happiness all day, imagine the end result a lot and feel the love. That is simply false. The idea that we have to be positive all the time, to distract ourselves with happy stuff to stay in a happy vibe 24/7, is not only false - it's unrealistic and terrible for your mental health. You can wear a mask of happiness and underneath that mask is the anger and fear in control, pushed down into the subconscious as it continues to paint its pattterns in your life. Being aware of your true emotions and just feeling them, letting them flow away, helps you release the negative patterns in your life.

The point is that allowing yourself to feel your emotions, yes - even emotions like fear and jealousy and anger, helps you make peace with them. Emotions are energy in motion, when you feel them they can flow again. The trick is to feel your emotions with a meditative, self-accepting attitude, but not to give in to the old negative stories. There's a difference between feeling fear and identifying yourself with the fear. Brave men feel fear and act anyway, accomplishing great things. Do you see the difference? The difference is awareness and intention. When you allow yourself to feel your feelings for the intention of healing and inner peace, you're aware of self-acceptance and self-love, not buying into the painful stories of the past. Plus, I have a theory that a lot of us may subconsciously be acting on certain desires because of unresolved emotions. When we meditate on those emotions and feel them and release them with awareness, we gain better self-control and wisdom over our own ego.

After I felt that release, I focused on acing my final exams for a week and then I decided that although I still didn't really want her back, I did genuinely appreciate her and I wanted to talk to her like we used to. She did have a history of never texting me back at times which used to make me feel bad, but after that self-love exercise, I just didn't care. If I texted her and she didn't respond, who cares? I have no more fear, I have only self-love. It didn't matter anymore if she liked me back or not because I just trusted that I am likable as I am. I believe in telepathy, that subconsciously we can sense each other, so I decided to just focus on what I appreciate about her and think back on the good times, sending that to her in telepathy as nothing more than an act of unconditional appreciation. So I texted her, no expectations. And she texted back. Very flirty. Even asking me multiple times to meet up with her. And I wasn't on cloud 9 or anything, I was just calm and appreciative about it all. Even after all that, she still texts me sometimes letting me know that she misses me and thinks about me often. Man, three years ago this was all I wanted and now I get it when I kind of don't care (or am I not fearful).

Anyway, the point is to practice self-acceptance, let yourself feel your emotions, accept where you are because hating yourself for being in this position won't help you, accepting things as they are for now can help you feel better where you are and gain clarity. A long time ago, practicing acceptance of myself and my life helped me heal my depression. I forgot about that, but now it makes sense with my other story. I can't promise that my story will work out the same for you, but from a place of self-acceptance, it's so much easier to create a better life for yourself and just live free again, feeling love.
 

I saw the thread title and I was going to chime in but this reply is even better than what I was going to string together. Follow this and work on yourself.  

Dan2015 wrote:

What colonel said is so true, especially the part about letting yourself feel all emotions.      I mean.  Nobody is positive all the time, I think the important part, is how we bounce back.

I noticed, it's easier to bounce back, when you let your sadness/anger/etc out.     Honestly, maybe buy a punching bag or someyhing, when you're angry.  Let everything out on the bag


I noticed, ever since I stopped forcing myself be positive, and feeling all emotions, I've actually been more positive and bounce back faster

I've felt a shift the last week, have I been happy every moment?   No.   But I bounce back so quickly

Yes it is how we bounce back. When you allow yourself to feel the emotions they pass through you more quickly. Then you can return to your base state which is happiness and unconditional love. The more you allow the less situations and reality can drag you down. You end up changing your relationship to the situation. After a while the things that upset you no longer upset you and you stop resisting them. You drop the judgement of it. Then and only then the universe starts replacing what is with what you prefer.