My Ex and I are broken up the better part of a year and a half. I didn't deal with it well. Since discovering the LOA things have been a bit of a roller coaster ride for me however, I think I'm slowly getting there. I recently had a health scare and had to have a lump removed from my neck. The sudden realisation that "This could be it", made me see, very clearly, how wrong I had gotten my approach to getting her back. The neediness, self doubt, sense of lack, obsessing etc. I didn't go to her with a sob story hoping it would get her back. We have a son together so I felt it appropriate to tell her at some point what was happening, but in a mature and dignified way. Since getting out of hospital I have most definitely started concentrating on living life again. I notice her general behaviour towards me has improved immensely. When I notice this...I then ignore it. I don't grab at it like a drowning man. I notice it and then let it pass. The next time its a little stronger....and so I believe it will continue to strengthen.
I spent the better part of my time since the break up, getting in my own way when it came to getting her back. This is water. It will follow the path of least resistance and it WILL reach its destination. For anyone like me out there who has struggled with just letting it happen.......hear me. There are worse things than breaking up with someone you love. If you are not going to follow the simple yet sometimes unbearably hard to follow steps...then you will get lost...very lost....like me. Trust in it....it will come.....and like water, it probably will have to meander a bit first, so sit back, relax, and be patient. My meandering has only started. Its hard..........but its better than being lost.