authenticself wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

authenticself wrote:

But then his confused me, my specific person believed I cheated on him, but I never once did. Nor did I have an interest of doing so. So if he believed that, then why did it never actually happen? Why does my actions not match his belief about me?

Because there is no other person, but only you..How could you ever really know what an other person believes anyway? Take your cue from your consciousness. It's the only you have access to.

I know what he believed because he told me, but that never happened.

No, you don't. You know what he told you, that's it. That are two different things. And still as I said, there is no actual other person, so what this seemingly other person believes doesn't matter, because what they believe is based on what you believe.

authenticself wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

authenticself wrote:

I know what he believed because he told me, but that never happened.

No, you don't. You know what he told you, that's it. That are two different things. And still as I said, there is no actual other person, so what this seemingly other person believes doesn't matter, because what they believe is based on what you believe.

I carried the belief that he only saw bad things about me at the time.

See? That's it. Him thinking that you could cheat is just one possible expression of your fear at that time. And when you have that believe while being faithfully, he has to make something up to meet your  belief, right? It's actually pretty cool how that works, because that means you can turn it around completely and he will conform your new belief.

So it’s the same if a person claims they trust you entirely and you lie to them the whole time and cheat on them, correct? Cuz you may carry the belief that even though they claim to have trusted you, you believed otherwise and so it will be that they don’t trust you in truth, right?