I think you need to focus on yourself a lot more. You are too concerned with what he is doing and worrying about if he loves you or not. You should be more concerned with what YOU are doing and if you love YOURSELF. Sounds backwards but if you love yourself, he will love you as well. He will come back to you when you decide you love yourself more than you love him.

So I would suggest you write down a list of everything that you like to do. Then write down a list of things you want to do but you've never done before. And then go do everything on those lists lol Have fun! This is supposed to be fun! He's coming back to you and that's awesome! You should be happy about it! You should be celebrating! Throw a party! lol You don't need him to be happy and to have fun. You can do that all on your own!

The key to getting what you desire is about how you FEEL. So if whatever you visualize is making you feel happy, then it is good! Don't worry about whether you are doing it right or not. That's where trust and faith come in. TRUST that you are doing the right thing and that only good things come to you.

Don't let that doubt get into your game    You need to be sure and BELIEVE   as Cherished has said   delete the past   delete doubt    I know what a struggle it is     We are all fighting the same battle or we wouldn't be here    When you think of your desire   and doubt or sadness creeps in   become aware and IMMEDIATELY think of something else    put on a television show   pick up a magazine   go for a walk   stop thinking of your relationship   and return when your are in a happy place vibrationally     Remember    He loved you once  

TrustMe wrote:

I think you need to focus on yourself a lot more. You are too concerned with what he is doing and worrying about if he loves you or not. You should be more concerned with what YOU are doing and if you love YOURSELF. Sounds backwards but if you love yourself, he will love you as well. He will come back to you when you decide you love yourself more than you love him.

So I would suggest you write down a list of everything that you like to do. Then write down a list of things you want to do but you've never done before. And then go do everything on those lists lol Have fun! This is supposed to be fun! He's coming back to you and that's awesome! You should be happy about it! You should be celebrating! Throw a party! lol You don't need him to be happy and to have fun. You can do that all on your own!

The key to getting what you desire is about how you FEEL. So if whatever you visualize is making you feel happy, then it is good! Don't worry about whether you are doing it right or not. That's where trust and faith come in. TRUST that you are doing the right thing and that only good things come to you.

 
Hi trustme, thanks for your advice. I understand what all you've said, I do love myself. I booked time to do nails, shopping, massage ,hang out a lot with friends as I really love hanging out with friends. But what I'm concerning is, they all said that we need to "act as if" to attract someone back and the point is, if we're together I don't hang out much with my friends and I have to get back home at 9pm. I did tried to have my own time and not thinking about him like "letting go", and once I "let go", the feeling of fear just pops up.

Blessedck wrote:

I agree with what everyone said. Let go of the struggle. I know you can do this

 
Aww blessed, thanks for trusting me so much in this, I really felt positive and in high vibration after reading your "Believe and Know" thread. Thank you so much.

Hisoneandonly wrote:

TrustMe wrote:

I think you need to focus on yourself a lot more. You are too concerned with what he is doing and worrying about if he loves you or not. You should be more concerned with what YOU are doing and if you love YOURSELF. Sounds backwards but if you love yourself, he will love you as well. He will come back to you when you decide you love yourself more than you love him.

So I would suggest you write down a list of everything that you like to do. Then write down a list of things you want to do but you've never done before. And then go do everything on those lists lol Have fun! This is supposed to be fun! He's coming back to you and that's awesome! You should be happy about it! You should be celebrating! Throw a party! lol You don't need him to be happy and to have fun. You can do that all on your own!

The key to getting what you desire is about how you FEEL. So if whatever you visualize is making you feel happy, then it is good! Don't worry about whether you are doing it right or not. That's where trust and faith come in. TRUST that you are doing the right thing and that only good things come to you.

 
Hi trustme, thanks for your advice. I understand what all you've said, I do love myself. I booked time to do nails, shopping, massage ,hang out a lot with friends as I really love hanging out with friends. But what I'm concerning is, they all said that we need to "act as if" to attract someone back and the point is, if we're together I don't hang out much with my friends and I have to get back home at 9pm. I did tried to have my own time and not thinking about him like "letting go", and once I "let go", the feeling of fear just pops up.

A lot of people misunderstand the phrase "let go". You're supposed to let go of your FEAR not your desire. So you're not letting go at all. You are clinging onto that fear tightly. Relax because fear is holding you back. To act "as if" means to act as if you were in the PERFECT relationship. If you were with him in the perfect relationship then you would not feel scared. You have to pretend you already have what you want. You dont want the old relationship back. The old relationship didn't work. As long as you fall back into the old patterns, you'll get the same old thing. You want a NEW  and BETTER relationship with him. So getting your nails done and hanging out with your friends IS acting "as if" but you can't go home after spending time with them and get scared. Pretend you are with him. You should not be afraid. Let go of your fear.