I'm making a conscious effort to not constantly "stalk" his social media and if I feel like i can't I will delete him.

I feel better today and in a happier vibration but then little things get said that remind me of something or make me think something negative... How do you stop those thoughts?  As I said I tell myself that these are not real but what else do you do to acknowledge the negative thoughts but overcome them with a positive one?

black08 wrote:

I'm making a conscious effort to not constantly "stalk" his social media and if I feel like i can't I will delete him.

I feel better today and in a happier vibration but then little things get said that remind me of something or make me think something negative... How do you stop those thoughts? As I said I tell myself that these are not real but what else do you do to acknowledge the negative thoughts but overcome them with a positive one?

that's a good idea, black08! also, good job on the happier vibrations - milk that great energy for what it's worth and keep appreciating and feeling good

they don't really 'make you feel negative' in that you choose to allow them to make you feel that way. when you first start noticing your thoughts, i feel like it can be very hyper-active in our headspace because we start noticing a lot of our negative, doubtful thoughts more so and get caught up in them a lot easier (especially since we want to change them).

it's good that you remind yourself that they're not real because they aren't! blessedck gave a really great personal story with wonderful advice (which helped raise my mood!), and going off from that, i would also say to focus on what you want. when those doubtful thoughts do come up, it's okay to acknowledge them, but i find that just by truly understanding and knowing that my thoughts create my reality, i realize that i don't even want to give a second to those kinds of thoughts and that's what makes me stop trying to think them. in the beginning, i'd get a little carried away and get into a downwards spiral of "oh he must be with someone else" etc, but after working on my thoughts (through reaching for relief, repetition, visualization, appreciation, scripting, etc.), it becomes a little bit easier so i would say just keep on going - keep on rewriting the story, your thoughts, and keep focusing on what you want and it will get easier as you continue this wonderful journey. 

sometimes it might be better to think about something else. maybe watch a funny movie or show, read a book, take a nap (those are great), have a good meal, have a nice bath, or do something that makes you feel good. and THEN, you can go back to the topic from a higher vibrational standpoint and then chose to work on those thoughts. but don't force it either, be gentle with yourself. we've trained ourselves to have these doubtful thoughts that don't serve any purpose so it may take a bit of time (which is ok!) to let go of them, but if you keep focusing on what you want and reaching for better feeling thoughts, then you'll be back with him in no time.

i don't repeat affirmations too often, but to make myself feel better i might repeat "____(partner's name) loves me" and really feel it or journal that or like journal a date we went on because it makes me feel all tingly, and lovely and happy - and that's the feelings you are aiming for! i might affirm "he's so sweet to me" and just cute things like. whatever makes you feel good is good!

nsquared wrote:

Blessedck wrote:

Thus, my advice to you is that just believe that you are his wife and he loves you dearly! That's what I do! I told myself that I was so naive to not realize that LOA is really easy. All I have to do is project the feelings of having my desire fulfilled and as result the Universe has no choice but to make it happen.

Be relaxed, calm, confident, and happy. We can't predict when our guys will show up in our physical reality but I do believe that my perfect relationship with him is a fact and it's happening right now. Just knowing that allows me to not give a damn about what is going around me. What we are seeing today is seriously the effects of past thoughts thus if you persistently believe that he is yours then without a doubt you will be seeing him in your physical world very soon!

blessedck, this was beautiful and I'm so happy that you saw how powerful your thoughts and focus are, and that you were able to turn the situation around and get the results you want! you're definitely right in that your perfect relationship is happening now even if you can't see it physically; it is there though and pretty soon you will be seeing it, i am positive in that! this is great advice, thank you for writing this, it raised my mood tenfold!!

Hi nsquared,

I'm so happy that I could help you feel SO much better. It's the truth! You too are marrying your guy!

Just an example of what happens when you stop stalking. My friend was obsessed with the girl she thought her guy was talking to. She stopped stalking a month ago and boom our friend told her that she heard they aren't talking anymore! Isn't that amazing?

Seriously stalking is like poison

nsquared wrote:

Blessedck wrote:

Just an example of what happens when you stop stalking. My friend was obsessed with the girl she thought her guy was talking to. She stopped stalking a month ago and boom our friend told her that she heard they aren't talking anymore! Isn't that amazing?

Seriously stalking is like poison

it really is!! just recalling this one guy i was previously infatuated with, my negative focus/stalking always created exactly what i didn't want lol with such an intense negative focus, we manifest those things that we do not want merely because we're so nervous and anxious about our person having another person that isn't us.

BUT, that does not matter! NOT AT ALL. isn't that so great? like you said blessedck, once we just ignore that and focus on the reality we want, everything comes together.

thank you for sharing your friend's example- such a great reminder! 

 
I loves much that you recognize this! It's true,  NONE OF IT MATTERS! Ticket to your freedom,  right there 😊