I notice, keeping busy is one of the most important parts in this journey.  At times when you're bored or whatever, that's when you either want to start contact with your love or continue contact with your love(if you've already got in touch) and that's when you start getting attached.   Because, just like loving yourself.  You should never put your entertainment on another person.    I notice when I get bored, that's when I start thinking.  "My love hasn't contacted me in a few days/hours" and I start becoming very attached to wanting her to reply.     Then I start having doubts.        Keeping busy is probably one of the most important things