Oxolove wrote:

I’ve been reading a lot about it when I have doubts. I have been successful as well many times but somehow when it comes to him, it’s difficult to focus on the end result.  He did view my instagram story which it may not seem like a lot but I was just thinking last night “he is thinking of me, I bet he’ll view my instagram story soon” and so he did. So I am in a way manifesting, I just need to lose the fear about manifesting the actual relationship.

Ad Cynthia says it's about what you believe.

loveandjoy wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

You're welcome. There are a few things you could try. One thing that worked a treat for me and was long lasting was the ho'oponopono prayer. It only took a few minutes, and I got very emotional and cried a lot, but then I felt ever so much better for quite a long time. I was looking for the English lady on youtube whose video I used, but I couldn't find it. I think she was a psychologist or therapist of some type, she made it easy to understand, and the whole thing was probably not more than 10 minutes. You have to say it like you mean it and feel it rather than the pointless and mindless repetition I have seen on youtube, with recordings that sometimes have gone on for hours. It only takes a few minutes if you really think about what you're doing. This is the other one I used after the first one.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNRKaTrrQ_0&t=344s

You could also try revision. One type is to imagine an undesirable past event but with it going a totally different way, so, for example, if he acted coldly toward you, you could imagine him acting very lovingly toward you, or if he said he didn't want to see you again, you could change that for him to say how much he wanted to see you, how much he loved you, how much he wanted you in his life, that sort of thing, and repeat it until you believe it.

You said it yourself. You had something to do with creating this situation, so you can create something different. If you can manage to rise above the hurt feelings, you could go straight to imagining living in the end with the two of you being very happy together, with everything going perfectly, in whatever ways that are meaningful to you.

Hi Cynthia,

Do you recommend doing the ho'oponopono if we are trying to live in the end? Also, I've seen videos were you can use it for a specific person by saying there name and setting the intention to heal that specific relationship. I did the prayer for a few days last week and it reallllly helped me let go and raise my vibrations. I even realized that this entire time I was manifesting from a place of fear and lack. I have turned it around and even slowed down on my visualizations. I haven't been doing the prayer everyday because I thought it would contradict me living in the end. 

Also, would it be okay to private message you for more advice? 

 
When I did the ho'oponopono prayer, I only did it once for a few minutes until I felt done because I had a lot of anger and resentment toward my SP that I wanted to get rid of. That's all it took. The thing is to say it like you really mean it and let yourself really feel it. I've seen some very long versions on youtube that even go on for hours of mindlessly repeating it, but that seems pretty pointless to me. It says in the bible, doesn't it, in prayer use not vain repetition? I got very emotional and cried, actually sobbed, for awhile, but it really helped, and for a long time those fee!ings didn't come back, until sometime later something else happened to bring those feelings back again. It doesn't interfere with living in the end. On the contrary. It's kind of hard to !ive in the end of having a relationship with somebody when you have negative fee!ings toward them but you want the relationship to be a happy, harmonious one. It's important to get rid of that negativity. I would look upon it as a form of revision. When I did it, I said his name and imagined he was right in front of me and I was saying it directly to him. It's my understanding, though, that you are really talking to yourself and forgiving yourself by doing the ho'oponopono prayer, even though you may be saying somebody else's name.

Of course you can private message me if you want to.