I've read your private message, which is what you've said here. Since you contacted me, you must have read some of my posts and know that I always advocate what Neville taught about living in the end in your imagination of having your desire just as though it is already true, ignoring what your senses or the outside world currently indicate is the opposite, and feeling like you would if you had the relationship now.. What you said you want in your post is what you need to be living in the end in your imagination of already having now.

I don't know what you personally have done, but all too often I see people who don't live in the end of having the relationship, which is what the vast majority of the people on this forum seem to want. They frequently try to take steps they think they need to take along the way, so they often try to get a text message or some other contact from somebody, so, at best, if they're even doing that much, they're only really living in the end of getting the text or whatever it is. Then, if they do hear from the person, they often haven't thought beyond that. They haven't even had time to establish or reestablish a relationship with the person, they've only had the contact, and may panic if they think the person isn't acting the way they want them to or think they should right off the bat instead of giving the relationship a chance to develop..

From what you've said, all you've done so far is manifested some contact from the person, who initially told you presumably what you wanted to hear, not a relationship with them, but then you already panicked for some reason and sent him a message that was counterproductive.

My advice, since you asked for it, would be to put this mistake out of your mind and not to let it become a big fear that he'll never have anything more to do with you and that you've blown it forever and start living in the end in your imagination of having the relationship you desire just the way you want it to be. You've got to be patient and persevere and have some faith and go straight to the end and think from of it, not of it. I don't  like to use the term 'letting go' because it really means to let go of the negativity, the fears, worries, doubts, etc., which I recommend you do, but I see people interpreting it all the time to mean what boils down to pretending they don't really want what they want and hoping for the best, that something outside themselves, they often call it the universe, will do it for them or decide for them. There is no universe outside yourself, not the kind they're talking about. You get to decide for yourself, not something outside you.

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You're welcome. There are a few things you could try. One thing that worked a treat for me and was long lasting was the ho'oponopono prayer. It only took a few minutes, and I got very emotional and cried a lot, but then I felt ever so much better for quite a long time. I was looking for the English lady on youtube whose video I used, but I couldn't find it. I think she was a psychologist or therapist of some type, she made it easy to understand, and the whole thing was probably not more than 10 minutes. You have to say it like you mean it and feel it rather than the pointless and mindless repetition I have seen on youtube, with recordings that sometimes have gone on for hours. It only takes a few minutes if you really think about what you're doing. This is the other one I used after the first one.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNRKaTrrQ_0&t=344s

You could also try revision. One type is to imagine an undesirable past event but with it going a totally different way, so, for example, if he acted coldly toward you, you could imagine him acting very lovingly toward you, or if he said he didn't want to see you again, you could change that for him to say how much he wanted to see you, how much he loved you, how much he wanted you in his life, that sort of thing, and repeat it until you believe it.

You said it yourself. You had something to do with creating this situation, so you can create something different. If you can manage to rise above the hurt feelings, you could go straight to imagining living in the end with the two of you being very happy together, with everything going perfectly, in whatever ways that are meaningful to you.

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Oxolove wrote:

Thank you so much for the advice Cynthia. I am doing my best to apply but I’m having a hard time believing I can change this... I’ve been feeling so down

 
I'm sure it must happen to everyone.  I've been brought down from time to time by other people's negativity when it sometimes gets to be too much, and I'm usually very strong in my faith. Even Neville said that as many successes as he'd had, he sometimes failed because of himself, not because of the law of assumption.

Oxolove wrote:

Cynthia, I want to know your honest opinion. I’ve been studying conscious creation for a little bit over a year. I still have doubts even though I have seen things manifest before...in this situation would you say it’s 100% possible to manifest? Sometimes I think of movIng on but then I think if I can manifest anything, why not this relationship which is what I really desire.

 
Yes, I do believe it's 100% possible, but it doesn't matter what I believe, it's what you believe. I'm sure everybody has doubts sometimes. It's happened to me. I'm not perfect at all times and have never claimed to be. I mostly listen to Neville at those times, as well as other times, telling me the same sorts of things over and over because sometimes I really need that myself. I've had a lot of success, but sometimes it's easy to forget that.