Serendipity wrote:

I wouldn't use the statement "I want", it implies that you are constantly seeking and not obtaining. Neville Goddard is a really good teacher for this type of thing, plus his stuff is free. If Neville doesn't resonate with you, there are other teachers who can help you. 

If you feel that you're on the right track, you will be. 
 

Thank you Serendipity. I thought that using the phrase “I want” might be a good way to start because I feel a lot less resistance to that than some statements about already having what I want.

I love Neville but I find some of his work a little hard to read. Well, not exactly hard to read, maybe just a bit dry? Or maybe it’s just because it was written in such a different time period.

Thank you for that last note about being on the right track. That means a lot to me. 🙂

Last edited by LotsOfLove (12/28/2018 8:42 am)

Cynthia wrote:

You'd be better off saying 'I have'  or 'I am'.

True, but what about when saying “I have” or “I want” feels like there is resistance behind it? For example, right now if I say to myself “I have a job where I make xxxx dollars per month” there is a part of me deep down that says “no you don’t” and it doesn’t feel good. Same thing if I say to myself “I’m in a relationship with so-and-so” or various other examples. However if I say to myself “I want a relationship with so-and-so” it feels better and kind of like a stepping stone towards being able to say “I am” and feel good about it. Maybe I am totally off base though.

 
That's why I don't say affirmations unless I already believe them. I know, it makes you feel !ike you are lying to yourself, but saying 'I want' is stating that you don't have it. I heard one person say somewhere a long time ago that it doesn't matter if you don't believe affirmations at first, he found that if he repeated them long enough he did start to believe them, and perhaps other people have had that experience, but I didn't have it myself. There's something I do that helps me believe something that hasn't happened yet. It's a form of Neville's revision. I usually do it in writing and read it like it's a letter from someone but sometimes I hear a person speaking, and it doesn't have to be their voice, it can even be your own voice. Either way, I have them telling me what I want to hear, what I want to believe to be true. You can do this for anything, it doesn't have to be relationship-related. It could be an imaginary letter offering you a place on a course or an invitation to an event, anything you wanted it to be. Then, I read it or hear it over and over until I believe it, and that doesn't have to be all in one go, it can be over as long a period of time as it takes, and if I need to I'll go back and do that again at a later date, or I might change it later if I feel like it. You could try that. It works for me.

That totally makes sense. That is the same issue I have had with affirmations (not all affirmations but often ones relating to something I really really want). I will give your idea a try. Thanks!

catwoman2000 wrote:

How about saying "Every day I get closer and closer to being in the relationship I desire" or Wouldn't it be nice if me and my sp were together in a relationship" or "I am becoming better each day at manifesting" also try doing a focus wheel..look them up on you tube with hicks or agnes..those are super believable for your brain to accept as affirmations.  Also I like using recently I love the feeling of being with my sp, I get excited thinking about my sp and I back together again. 
hope that helps xoxo 

Thanks! Those sound like really good ideas too!