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Dear all,
I have not been in this forum for a while. Long story short, I had a thing with a guy but the guy left and we lost contact for a while. He contacted me disappeared then contacted me again, finally I had enough and I thought that I don’t want to keep waiting on him. I found someone new, I wasn’t very attracted to this guy at first. But this guy was so nice and caring that my feelings for him grew little by little. This guy is not from my home country, we met during a business trip. Now we’re in long distance relationship for a month plus. Suddenly my old guy called me again and told me that he still have feelings for me. Now I can’t stop thinking about my old guy. Deep down I know that I also still have feelings for him, I just feel like if only he called me 2 months earlier. I can’t leave the new guy for something that is uncertain. What if this old guy goes back to his old ways? What if he leaves me again? This new guy is so nice that I feel like he is actually a husband material. More than that, I really don’t wnat to hurt my new guy.
I was wondering if the new guy is the universe’s sign for me to let go of the old guy? Is he supposed to be my something better? But why do I still feel for my old guy? I really don’t know what to do. I want to let the universe choose. But how? I can’t pick one without hurting the other, and also hurting myself. Is it possible to like 2 people at the same time?
Thank you so much for your kind attention
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The choice is yours; the universe doesn't choose for you.
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Cottoncandy wrote:
Dear all,
I have not been in this forum for a while. Long story short, I had a thing with a guy but the guy left and we lost contact for a while. He contacted me disappeared then contacted me again, finally I had enough and I thought that I don’t want to keep waiting on him. I found someone new, I wasn’t very attracted to this guy at first. But this guy was so nice and caring that my feelings for him grew little by little. This guy is not from my home country, we met during a business trip. Now we’re in long distance relationship for a month plus. Suddenly my old guy called me again and told me that he still have feelings for me. Now I can’t stop thinking about my old guy. Deep down I know that I also still have feelings for him, I just feel like if only he called me 2 months earlier. I can’t leave the new guy for something that is uncertain. What if this old guy goes back to his old ways? What if he leaves me again? This new guy is so nice that I feel like he is actually a husband material. More than that, I really don’t wnat to hurt my new guy.
I was wondering if the new guy is the universe’s sign for me to let go of the old guy? Is he supposed to be my something better? But why do I still feel for my old guy? I really don’t know what to do. I want to let the universe choose. But how? I can’t pick one without hurting the other, and also hurting myself. Is it possible to like 2 people at the same time?
Thank you so much for your kind attention
There is no universe outside yourself. You get to make your own choices. From the way you've put it here, the old guy sounds like an unstable, bad risk with all of his coming and going. Is that possible to be changed through conscious creation? Yes. Is he worth the trouble? I don't know. That's up to you. It's not a good idea to do anything rash that you might regret. One thing you could do is to get yourself into a calm, relaxed state of mind, before you went to sleep would be good, and ask yourself what you really wanted and what you should do, then go to sleep asking your deeper (subconscious) mind for the answer and do this every night until the answer comes to you.