First of all, forgive yourself for anything that you have done such as not valuing his presence before as you said. 

Second, look at how many times you said "need". You can't be in a state of needing and manifest anything.

I get that it's not easy to deal with so many feelings and it can feel overwhelming. Make sure you are taking care of yourself first and foremost, before thinking about his place in your life. 

Now I know some people might not agree with this, but a coach I had before recommended people in this situation, to get all of your grief out of your system. Set aside time to let those emotions out. Cry for 40 minutes if you need to, then go and do something else, focus on something else. Make sure you don't end up wallowing in the sad feelings and getting into self-pity or over-thinking. I don’t recommend doing it every day. I did it before years ago when I was feeling that way and it helped. I think I did it a couple of times. Sometimes we just have to get things out of our system. Getting it out of the way like that could help to stop it from coming up all the time and feeling out of control. The more we try to run away from our feelings the more out of control we can end up feeling. Yes, you need to ultimately be living in the end result, but every situation is different in terms of where the person is at, and it sounds like you have a lot of feelings going on and you need to resolve them so you can move foreward towards what you want.

You can manifest what you want, but in my opinion, it would benefit you to make sure you are happy as a priority. And that will help in the process of manifesting him, but you have to do it for you. 

And hey, we're all on this forum to help each other, so don't feel bad about asking.

You CAN do this, but start telling yourself that you CAN.

Last edited by Aquilina (9/16/2018 9:00 pm)

oceanitrogen wrote:

I want him to come after me because he loves me, not because I manifested it.

Well, this is impossible because you are manifesting every single second of your life. There isn’t anything that happens to you that isn’t something you’ve manifested. You manifested the break up. You are currently manifesting the situation you’re in. Nobody else. As soon as you accept this, you’ll start realizing for real how powerful you are.

Also, most “LOA” teachers are only using watered down versions of Neville Goddard’s teachings. I’m not sure why you feel you need Veronica or anyone else when you’ve been guided to the most straightforward and simplistic info on what to do. You’re only wasting time and going to confuse yourself further by adding anything else to it. Nothing else is necessary. And that’s something you sort of need to accept here, too.

Last edited by fizzy (9/17/2018 5:12 am)

Aquilina wrote:

First of all, forgive yourself for anything that you have done such as not valuing his presence before as you said. 

Second, look at how many times you said "need". You can't be in a state of needing and manifest anything.

I get that it's not easy to deal with so many feelings and it can feel overwhelming. Make sure you are taking care of yourself first and foremost, before thinking about his place in your life. 

Now I know some people might not agree with this, but a coach I had before recommended people in this situation, to get all of your grief out of your system. Set aside time to let those emotions out. Cry for 40 minutes if you need to, then go and do something else, focus on something else. Make sure you don't end up wallowing in the sad feelings and getting into self-pity or over-thinking. I don’t recommend doing it every day. I did it before years ago when I was feeling that way and it helped. I think I did it a couple of times. Sometimes we just have to get things out of our system. Getting it out of the way like that could help to stop it from coming up all the time and feeling out of control. The more we try to run away from our feelings the more out of control we can end up feeling. Yes, you need to ultimately be living in the end result, but every situation is different in terms of where the person is at, and it sounds like you have a lot of feelings going on and you need to resolve them so you can move foreward towards what you want.

You can manifest what you want, but in my opinion, it would benefit you to make sure you are happy as a priority. And that will help in the process of manifesting him, but you have to do it for you. 

And hey, we're all on this forum to help each other, so don't feel bad about asking.

You CAN do this, but start telling yourself that you CAN.

Thank you so much. I do have been trying to get it out, but I'm afraid it will drive him further away from me if I keep feeling sadness and crying and all of that. I feel happy too, so don't wory about that. I think my biggest issue is believing it's possible. How is it possible? Manifesting a new amazing relationship with him being possible means that we're going to be together because I did I did it and not because he missed me and does not want to be without me, you know? Also, I don't know how to forgive myself. I'm the reason why we're like this. I've done so much wrong. Everyone would tell me how amazing he was and how i needed to stop treating him the way  was. And i never listened.

fizzy wrote:

oceanitrogen wrote:

I want him to come after me because he loves me, not because I manifested it.

Well, this is impossible because you are manifesting every single second of your life. There isn’t anything that happens to you that isn’t something you’ve manifested. You manifested the break up. You are currently manifesting the situation you’re in. Nobody else. As soon as you accept this, you’ll start realizing for real how powerful you are.

Also, most “LOA” teachers are only using watered down versions of Neville Goddard’s teachings. I’m not sure why you feel you need Veronica or anyone else when you’ve been guided to the most straightforward and simplistic info on what to do. You’re only wasting time and going to confuse yourself further by adding anything else to it. Nothing else is necessary. And that’s something you sort of need to accept here, too.

Yeah, I know. I'm being silly. But it's just that I seriously get confused with everything. I've been googling ways to manifest him bac everywhere and all the information is making me feel overwhelmed and confused. And Neville has never said how to manifest a lover back. And I'm not that bright you know, I need someone to tell me how to do it 😭 I know I have to live as if it were happening and be sure it will happen. But how the hell do I do that???? You know?

Aquilina wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

It sounds like you think you are nothing without this person. You need to realise that is not true.

I agree, that's how it seems. That's why I think you wouldn't be ready to apply Neville's teachings because of the emotional situation because you feel out of control. You have said before that you love yourself but what you've said isn't the talk of someone that loves themself. To love yourself is to be the substance of your own life. This energy that you are feeling, is going to repel him and not attract him. But don't panic about how you feel just accept that it's how you feel and that you will do something about it and don't put pressure on yourself or be harsh on yourself for feeling the way you feel.

You should practise meditation in some form. It will help to relax you and take a step back from your feelings. 
 

I do believe I love myself. But I don't believe that I should be everything for myself. That feels like such a cold way of looking at life. I'm a very romantic person, I feel that's what makes you guys think I don't really love myself. I believe people we love are as important as we are, you know? The way you guys say it sounds too cold for me. I don't feel it is a bad thing to love him this much and not want to live without him. Because I really don't. But I don't feel miserable without him. I just don't feel as happy. I don't know if I'm expressing it right. But I do not think I'm nothing without him. I'm a very amazing person, thank you very much. I may be sounding depressing because I miss him, but I very much so love myself and think of myself as an entirely separate amazing individual without him. I just want him in my life, us in an amazing relationship, he's my soul mate, the love of my life. And yeah, that's it. I hope I clarified it, because I'm not depressed and I'm not as anxious as I sound. I only write these things when I'm sad. But I have these moments of sadness and they're waaaaaaay shorter than the moments of positiveness. I just really need help with the manifesting him part. I can promise you guys I am in fact happy even not being with him. I just get sad sometimes obviously, specially when i remeber how much I hurt him and I haven't had the opportunity to fix it and take care of him.

Last edited by oceanitrogen (9/17/2018 12:44 pm)