You acted like a hook up so that gave him the go ahead to treat you like that instead of a proper girlfriend. Why did you allow sex without commitment if what you want is the opposite? I'm not trying to have a go at you but looking at how this arose.

At least you manage to bring him back, after a year since I last spoke to her I didn't even manifest a message :/ so you are close to your goal

luckygirl77 wrote:

Hey guys, 
So I manifested my significant other back after a year of him ghosting and ignoring me. (You can read my story from my previous posts) Like I've tried reaching out to him during that period of time and he flat out ignored me. And during that time, he even got himself a new gf (I know I manifested this due to my insecurities). So that was when I was like that's it. I decided to completely heal and focus on myself. I delved deep into self love and meditated a lot, prayed a lot, started writing out my goals, did the gratitude journal, spent time with friends etc. Then one day, he came back. 

But, when he came back, he didnt apologize or say any lovey dovey stuff. No, he came back and pretended like nothing happened. Like he talked to me like a friend. Of course, I accepted this and went along for the ride. 
And we hooked up, twice. 
But then I realized that everytime we hook up, he'd ignore me until the next time we hook up again. And I started getting anxiety bout being ' just a hook up, nothing more' and I pulled the plug. I told him I didn't wanna hook up anymore. And then he agreed and tried talking to me after but I kinda ignored him for awhile because I wanted to try and get my mind together. It was heartbreaking for me to have to go through a FWB kinda situation after a year of finally manifesting him. I didn't know what to do. Like I did self love and everything but I just didn't understand why he only wanted sex and nothing more. Like i was trying to figure out where I went wrong and what is about me that is manifesting this. 
So, a week later (I'd say recently, like a couple days ago) he found someone new and posted a picture with this new girl on his Snapchat. Of course, I saw the snap and broke down. I immediately blocked him and now here I am, feeling heartbroken and shitty. Like damn, not again. Did I manifest this third party AGAIN? Like it's been two girls so far and he still doesn't choose me. he still chose these other girls instead of me. 

Now I feel like I'm back at square one. Back to where I first started. I know I should jump right back on the self love bandwagon and focus on myself. But what I don't get is, why is it that I still can't get a relationship out of him even after all that self love "I am wanted. I am secure. I am loved" I've been doing? Like I don't get it. Is there something that I haven't worked on?

It's tiring sometimes knowing that after all your hardwork, your reality ends up not the way you wanted it to be and you're back at square one. I feel lost and confused. 
Help anyone? :/

Self love is good, but it isn't the answer.  Living from the end in your imagination like the relationship that you desire is already a fact is.  You chose to 'go through a friends with benefits situation', nobody forced you, and that didn't show self love to allow yourself to be disrespected like that. Study Neville's teachings and apply them, and not just for a relationship, for everything.  I have personally manifested more than one relationship, as well as many other things, simply by imagining it already existed in pretty much Neville's way, although I hadn't heard of Neville at the time. It only takes a few minutes a day or night, and the rest of the time you just go about your business. Your beliefs are also critical, so if they aren't serving you, start working on changing them to some that do.
 

Last edited by Cynthia (8/18/2018 2:52 am)

Angel_0199 wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Self love is good, but it isn't the answer. Living from the end in your imagination like the relationship that you desire is already a fact is. You chose to 'go through a friends with benefits situation', nobody forced you, and that didn't show self love to allow yourself to be disrespected like that. Study Neville's teachings and apply them, and not just for a relationship, for everything. I have personally manifested more than one relationship, as well as many other things, simply by imagining it already existed in pretty much Neville's way, although I hadn't heard of Neville at the time. It only takes a few minutes a day or night, and the rest of the time you just go about your business. Your beliefs are also critical, so if they aren't serving you, start working on changing them to some that do.
 

I’ve been reading into Neville Goddard lately and I’ve honestly seen such progress in my emotional state. There are still days when I feel a little anxious and it takes me a while to get back to how I would like to feel. I usually read my favourite Neville Goddard passages in these moments, but I’m also trying to use visualisation. What do you picture/how do you find it best to visualise? It can be difficult to focus and feel like it’s real sometimes! Xo

Neville's book, The Law and the Promise, contains many letters written to him by people who followed his teachings and reported their successes and how they did it to him. It's very inspiring and helpful. He's also got lectures that I listen to on youtube, (I prefer 100kw's uploads because they are Neville's own voice, and some others are computerised voices or read by somebody else), and he talks about how he's personally put his teachings into practice. All of this is free online somewhere if you do a search for it, but I've got some of his books on my kindle just because it's easier for me to read.