Hey everyone!

So i've started No Contact on July 3rd. (5 weeks after the break-up). Which was long overdue because i really messed things up and only pushed her away more by trying to maintain contact. And i broke it a week ago on July 11th. She deleted me off of facebook and without thinking i asked her why she did that. I kinda forgot i was doing no contact. After she gave her answer i just said "Ok."  And continued No contact. So i don't count that interaction, however plenty of you will probably say i have to start the 30 days all over again.

Before No Contact, there's been a lot of issues, arguments, a lot of mean & hurtful words were said, feelings were extremely hurt, and some nasty things happened irl. She also said something that would mean it's really the end to a Non-LOA'er. But that all doesn't matter anymore, that's in the past and it has nothing to do with my projection of the near future.

Now it's been 2 weeks since our last actual conversation (which wasn't a positive one, i might need to revision that...) And as of a few hours ago i really want to talk to her, i haven't felt the urge to start a conversation with her in the last weeks. I'm gonna stick to No Contact though, don't wanna make another mistake.

But this all made me wonder, why does No Contact need to be 30 days?

Why is it still wrong to contact your person after those 30 days?

What if she is waiting for me to contact her first?

Just some questions i can't figure out.