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Aloha my new LOA friends, So happy I found Veronica and her forum..I would love some help in shifting my thinking and helping me create a new reality ...Β
So here is the story that happened with my guy and me... We met last year and fell so hard for each other, he is very caring, so nice, driven, motivated, affectionate, opened my doors, orders for me, amazing kisser..and he is really great at his job..He asked me to move in with him because he was moving to a new side of the island for his job and wanted me to be a part of that..so I said of course I would love too... So we moved after only knowing each other for 2 months Β we found a place and it was so exciting..I took a risk on LOVE because that is my goal is to find my partner and I really think he is but as we started to live together I saw things about him and took note of it..our communication went away , I had given up my jobs on the other side of the island and was having a hard time finding work ..It took about 3 months but then I was only given part time work which was not enough for me to survive..so I had to get another job.... I noticed that we fought all the time and it broke my heart..so I was telling him that I think we should go to therapy to help us with tools.. Plus I was having really bad hormonal stuff going on that was uncontrollable.. I was super sad and after about 3 months of back and forth and feeling very alone in the relationship and him not given me support I was angry I decide to move out... I told him that I was moving out ( oh I forgot to tell you that this was his very first relationship ever ) so this broke his heart and I was very sad as well..but I needed space from him to figure out what was best for me... As soon as I moved out things hit me..it seemed like things were moving on with his life...he bought a condo he got his dream job and promotion but then where was I ..I noticed he would still text me and want to see me but also want to still have sex with me...So now fast forward 3 months later..I want us to be back again but want to get very clear and understand this from not an emotional place..I have been having horrible anxiety and sleeping problems and am going to go on medication to help me..I know there is more to life and I deserve someone that wants to be with me just as I want to be with them..So please help me understand... I had a little chat with him over a week ago asking him if we were exclusive and I wanted to understand where he is coming from and he said he is liking how things are going and how positive I am ...so now I am like is he just wanting his cake and not committing or is it that he is just scared and EGO hurt... I want a family and a partner that wants to be with me .. My guy has a great family but I also want to be clear about where I am at in my life and if he wants to work on things then I can work with that,.....xoxoΒ
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You should be clear with him. No casual sex so he gets his cake and eats it too. It sounds like you really rushed into this. Have a look at the post about having you back and having it all. Though I asked a question on that thread and nobody responded, it's got some good advice. You've thrown yourself in the dustbin for a guy and you need to retrieve yourself.
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Hello my my newfound friends lots of love andΒ Β from Australia. I came across Veronica's website accidentally and see this definitely as a sign to a happier path. My story is very similar to some of the people here who found true love and in a matter of months just vanished. I know deep down he cares, I am at a stage in my life now where I am cautious yet approachable. Β I had two major set backs three weeks ago, a job I had true passion for didn't go according to my plan, thats ok I came to terms with it. But when I informed him, I wanted a bit of quality time with him just saying some comforting words and more importantly a hug. That never happened. He has totally cut me loose, won't respond to any of my messages. I gave him space, I still am. But what is killing me is not knowing why he cut me loose. I am not a sad person or negative. Life has ups and downs and we have to face reality.
Veronica teaches about self love and healing. I am just not able to do this. My life is consumed with his thoughts. I know this is not what I want. I believe and understand LOA and somehow I can't keep my vibrations high. I take my puppy for play, I am into well being (I do smoke though!!). I can't force myself to be happy, I have to find true happiness in my heart. I am confused and can barely function. I am totally aware of all the principles of LOA, visualisation, meditation, affirmations etc. But just not able to put it in practice. One has to be genuinely happy and feel good to manifest. But I feel I am forcing myself and this is not a true path to reclaiming my life. I have just decided to go with the flow. Can anybody give me realistic tips. please xxxxx