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My heart hurts
Today my ex told me he feels like I'm ignoring him. That I have trouble just being friends, so then I ignore him. I didn't reply, I didn't know what to say.
He said, "I've upset you, I can tell". I said "Can you give me a bit of time, please?" He asked what i meant and i ended up not replying.
He then said, "I'm going to assume you mean time to yourself and time away from me so I'll respect that. Take care of yourself Caitlin".
I feel like I can't breathe. Not only does he keep pushing us being "just friends", but "take care of yourself" sounds so cold. I feel sick.
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Re: My heart hurts
What inside of you is causing this behavior to manifest?
Other people confirm our beliefs about them. So that’s what I would look at.
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I don't know.... maybe the hopeless feelings? Ever since I looked at his social media, I've felt hopeless. I need help getting back to believing....
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Re: My heart hurts
Perhaps say to him that you can't simply just be friends with him right now so you'll take time to yourself and leave him to it.
Just be honest about it, you need to work on your Self Love now and that means time to yourself to love yourself.
I know it can be difficult to say but I think it is what you need right now. He'll soon start missing you, wondering what you are doing while you are loving yourself again. Perhaps say you need time away, start NC and get that Self Love going and maybe the 25 Day Challenge!
Best wishes, you can do this!
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Re: My heart hurts
AliT wrote:
Perhaps say to him that you can't simply just be friends with him right now so you'll take time to yourself and leave him to it.
Just be honest about it, you need to work on your Self Love now and that means time to yourself to love yourself.
I know it can be difficult to say but I think it is what you need right now. He'll soon start missing you, wondering what you are doing while you are loving yourself again. Perhaps say you need time away, start NC and get that Self Love going and maybe the 25 Day Challenge!
Best wishes, you can do this!
If nothing else, he's basically decided for me that i need space, based on what he said :/ Although at the same time, I probably need it...
I've been really feeling hopeless ever since I looked at his social media. I'm keeping myself from doing it again, fighting the part of me that says I should look. It's odd, I feel so certain he and this other girl are going to break up, and i daydream about him coming back to me, but I've got a lot of doubt still, right now. I stopped doing the challenge, too, because of the doubt.
I so wish I could simply let go and relax!
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