Cait11 wrote:

Hey all! I think this is the right forum for this, but please correct me if I'm wrong

I've seen people mention Lanie Stevens, so i thought I'd look at her "Breakup to Makeup" book. Of course, she says how you shouldn't do certain things, like beg the person to take you back, cry, be sad when they contact you, because that will negatively impact how your ex sees you.

She does mention a woman who pulled a gun on hers and they still got back together, but on the whole, reading this, I feel a little shaky. I had no guidance when my fiancee broke up with me, so i lost it. I begged a lot, and also had a really bad moment in person where I broke down badly. The last time I saw him in person, I was sad, and the last time we talked on the phone a week and a half ago, I got sad and insecure.

Now, my person just reached out to me again yesterday, and wants to video chat me today to get my opinion (on what, idk). I've been keeping positive, but today I've been feeling shaky, and then reading all that in the book has led to some doubt creeping in.

Another aspect is that my ex wants to be friends, and it sounds like according to Lanie, you should cut all ties if you want your ex back as your lover. Are these all just things that I'm getting hung up on?

I need a bit of a positivity boost, and to be reminded that this is doable, even if I did things previously that weren't in line with my desire. I've been telling myself that he loves me and wants me back, and I'm working on the 25 day challenger, along with looking up Neville Goddard. But right now, I would appreciate a positivity boost! ❤ Thank you in advance!

Don’t worry about how your ex sees you. I disagree with a lot Lanie says because she makes it seem like your ex is separate from you and that you can’t change the way someone acts towards you or get into a relationship with them if they’ve rejected you so many times. That’s all simply not true. How your ex sees you is not based on your actions. How they see you is how you BELIEVE they see you. And that’s it. If you act like a complete fool around them and they suddenly act different towards you in a bad way, it wasn’t because of the way you acted. It’s because of the way you believe they viewed how you acted. There is never a time where you can’t manifest a person back. Ever. No matter what’s currently happening or what has happened in the past.

You don’t have to cut all ties with your ex to get him back. The only reason why this is suggested is so that it is easier to focus on your desired reality without current reality slapping you in the face, so to speak.

My suggestion is to get away from Lanie and put much more focus on Neville. He is simple, to the point, and doesn’t place unnecessary limitations on things.

Last edited by fizzy (6/01/2018 11:15 pm)

You’re welcome Determination and persistence is all it takes!