I have never dealt with anything like this, but I do want to point out that nothing is ever “meant to be”, because I noticed you used that phrase. Nothing is destined, it’s always completely up to you what you choose to create in your world. If you truly aren’t sure who you want, my suggestion is to step back from doing anything physically and just feel that you are in the relationship you would like to have right now — with nobody specific. So you would visualize and feel that you have your ideal relationship now but you just wouldn’t be putting a face to the man. Don’t focus on anything that reminds you that you are currently single. And just see what eventually plays out.

Someone else on here might have a different idea to suggest to you.

This could be the perfect time to focus on yourself and maybe apply what I suggested.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I completely agree about "meant to be". I cringe each time I read it. But I also feel getting involved with someone unstable isn't a good idea. I also don't understand how you can love two guys with all your heart in a romantic sense. Platonic yes but not romantically.

The update, about them both hating you, sounds so juvenile that I agree you're better off concentrating on yourself and your own life than guys acting silly. Sometimes common sense rather than techniques etc is what's needed. You don't have to choose between them. You can choose yourself and neither of them!

Of course you’re free to offer any type of advice you want. But, I do want to point out that this is an LOA forum. And you can create changes in people by aligning with the reality where they are different. To just say that someone treated you badly and looking at it like that’s just how they are and that they can’t change is very much a “normal” viewpoint and doesn’t go along with creating your reality. I’m just pointing this out because this type of advice can be very limiting and confusing especially to people who are new here and trying to learn more about conscious creation and how it all works.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

To me at least, Law of Attraction isn't blindly saying "Oh I want him, even though he hates me" without any introspection as to why you want someone who acts in that way. I'd have to be absolutely sure. 
 

But you are aware that other people are just projections who change when we change our beliefs about them, right? If someone treats us badly, it’s because we ourselves created it through our feelings/beliefs/perception.

If any analyzation should be done, it should be to look inside ourselves and see what we are doing to create such behavior in the person.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I believe we teach people how to treat us, and we can create someone treating us badly by rolling over and dying when they do it, so they do it again and again, yes. But once we change, either they change, or they go away because we no longer attract someone who acts that way. 

Now though, what if someone, for example, is just rude? Rude and snippy to everyone they work with, snappy, rude to the bus conductor, to the person who serves them in the supermarket? Has everyone they interacted with created that rudeness? At what point do we allow them to take responsibility for how they have created themselves? 

This is my viewpoint on conscious creation and if you read and understand Neville Goddard, it is very much in line with what he teaches:

Reality is just the contents of your OWN consciousness. Therefore, each of us creates our own realities individually. Everything in your world is created by you and nobody else. Nobody else even has the ability to create in your reality. It’s like when you dream at night. Your whole dream is created by you, right? So if someone acts rude to you in your dream, would you blame them for how they treated you? Well you could blame them, but really their behavior in the dream was your creation. Neville compared reality to a dream and many other LOA teachers have done the same. Some have even said there is no difference between dreams and reality. So if someone treats you a certain way, it is very much your creation. And ONLY your creation. Other people are only projections like the rest of your reality. They confirm your beliefs about them. Change your beliefs and they will change. No need to analyze why you want a rude person as if their rude behavior is locked in place. It’s not.