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Hi guys. Need some insight into something that happened with my friend and her guy.
She met this guy a few yrs ago. They had an off again on relationship. She never trusted him. However, a few months ago she decided he is the guy for her and visualised them getting married. She met his ex wife and family and started trusting him. I even started referring to him as her husband.
This morning she phones me crying that she got a msg on fb from this girl telling her what a sick bastard he is. She found out he has been with my friend and her at the same time and possibily there is a 3rd girl.
She went out with him last night and he took a pic of both of them and by mistake sent it to the other girl. My friend sent that guy a msg and he said he doesn't know why the universe let him sent that other girl the pic.
My friend was being positive lately and saying 'things are always working out for me'. I feel so bad for her. She is devastated.
Why did that happen?
I admit it discouraged me. My sp got divorced after i believed he would after 6 yrs and then instead of being with me my fears created a 3rd party. All what i see and hear is not favourable to my situation with that 3rd party. His daughters love her and asked him when will they get married.
Saw him last night and he was texting with her.
Guidance/advice? βΉ
Thanks
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You answered your own question. You said she never trusted him. Visualising anything won't turn that around. Hard to believe for me that she after years suddenly should flip a switch and start fully trusting him. Sounds to me pretty much like getting exactly what she expected.
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Sanshi ,i was hoping you will be one of the people replying and you were the 1st π. Thank you.
I just spoke to her..she told me that the other girl also never trusted him and kept on checking up on him. My friend said she should have trusted her intuitions. But if we are conscious creators then we create right? Even a cheater if you believe he is faithful will be faithful no?
Sanshi, any advise on getting rid of the 3rd party that i created with my sp?
And in your signature Neville talks about state..and to become it to make it alive. Is that blind faith in your desires?
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collie wrote:
he said he doesn't know why the universe let him sent that other girl the pic.
That is the most hilarious excuse I have heard, him blaming the universe!!
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collie wrote:
Sanshi ,i was hoping you will be one of the people replying and you were the 1st π. Thank you.
I just spoke to her..she told me that the other girl also never trusted him and kept on checking up on him. My friend said she should have trusted her intuitions. But if we are conscious creators then we create right? Even a cheater if you believe he is faithful will be faithful no?
Sanshi, any advise on getting rid of the 3rd party that i created with my sp?
And in your signature Neville talks about state..and to become it to make it alive. Is that blind faith in your desires?
You are welcome.
I was confused about intuition for a loooong time, because I saw that my intuition was always right. Always, without one exception. Every time I listened to reason instead I regretted it. When I learned about LoA, I couldn't make sense of it. But now I think that intuition isn't against LoA - it's the opposite. You have a net of beliefs. When it comes to this guy, your friend has beliefs about herself, about guys in general, about relationships, about the type of guy she thinks he is just by looking at him and beliefs about him specifically that were built by the way she interpreted experiences with him. Maybe he reminded her of someone other and she projected experiences she had with this other person on him. So there are a lot of beliefs activated in the background without her being aware of it. I think "intuition" kicks in, when most of that beliefs point in the same direction. For example she thinks that she is unworthy, men always cheat on her, relationships fall apart when she opens up and trusts and then the guy made a comment about a "hot chick" while she was around and she interpreted that in a way that fitted her belief system. All that beliefs are in line and will give her the intuition that his guy can't be trusted. This feeling of intution is nothing else but "knowing" based on your beliefs and that's why it's always right. That feeling of intution is what creates. The guy isn't a cheater of itself, she created him that way through her belief system. So yes, following the intution is a good option, because your belief system is so strong in that moment that it's hard to turn it around quickly.
There isn't really a cheater. Every person is neutral and has no traits on their own. We color them with our beliefs. You may say that the other girl also agreed that he couldn't be trusted, but also the other friend is colored through the same belief system. So they will only confirm your own beliefs.
Do you really want to get rid of the third party? I mean, when she is gone, is the situation then perfect for you? You want the guy, not him being single, right? So I wouldn't give it any attention. Circumstances have no power. What has power is your mind. When you know that it is done what does the third party matter? When you order something from Amazon and they tell you that they don't have it right now and it will take a few days for them to order it before they can send it to you, would you drive to the producer of that thing to make sure that they send your wanted product to Amazon so that they can send it to you? No, of course not. That's not your job. By confirming your order you also got the guarantee from Amazon that they take care of everything that has to be done in order to get your stuff to you. You just sit there and trust that it will arrive,Β because you have paid. If Amazon would send you an email telling you that they are sorry that a employee's dog has peed on your stuff and it would take a day to replace it, you wouldn't freak out. You wouldn't do a meditation to remove the pee from your stuff. You would keep trusting that you get exactly what you ordered, and you didn't order dog pee, so it won't be in the package. So don't waste your time with anti dog pee meditations, just trust.
Yes, when you have blind faith, you are the person who has it. There is no awareness of lack and that's the state of a person who has.
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PrettyFlamingo..lol..yep the Universe delivered what he probably was thinking about and as we know we don't decide on the HOW..Bad UniverseΒ .
Sanshi, I am pretty sure she didn't trust him coz of the way they met. I think that his ex-wife also didn't trust him and thus a cheater was created So, my friend thought he was unfaithful to his wife and that is why her 'intuition' kicked in. She could have changed it if she would have believed he was faithful but instead I kept hearing over and over how she doesn't trust him.Β
You made me laugh with the dog pee analogy I did the mistake of when he was married to want him to divorce without imaging us together. Although, I believed he would get divorced as we so belong together I more concentrated on him being single. Now, I imagine/script us living together. So, i will continue doing that and ignore everything else even when I see him.Β
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collie wrote:
Sanshi, I am pretty sure she didn't trust him coz of the way they met. I think that his ex-wife also didn't trust him and thus a cheater was created So, my friend thought he was unfaithful to his wife and that is why her 'intuition' kicked in. She could have changed it if she would have believed he was faithful but instead I kept hearing over and over how she doesn't trust him.
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It's not that his ex wife created him that way and your friend just randomly bumped into him. It's no accident that he perceived him as cheating on his wife. It's also no accident that she assumed that when he was unfaithful towards his ex he couldn't be trusted. She could have believed that the source of the cheating so to speak was in the ex and not in him. If she had thought that she was way too awesome to get cheated on, her experience had been quite different.
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Right..we can influence others based on how we perceive them...assume negative and you get negative.
As for my so someone told me that my circumstances are really difficult coz of the 3rd party and my sp's kids βΉ. However, i don't want to give up on my desire.
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Here's a bit of an off topic but related idea. You know those stories you read a lot of where people "meet" someone online who tells them they are a rich property developer but all their assets are tied up and they need a large sum of money, and they send them money and never hear from them again? That they're in love with them but they've never met?
The victims often say they believed they were genuine and loved them back but the reality is they're a cad and a bounder. Why didn't their beliefs that they were genuine make them genuine?
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PrettyFlamingo wrote:
Here's a bit of an off topic but related idea. You know those stories you read a lot of where people "meet" someone online who tells them they are a rich property developer but all their assets are tied up and they need a large sum of money, and they send them money and never hear from them again? That they're in love with them but they've never met?
The victims often say they believed they were genuine and loved them back but the reality is they're a cad and a bounder. Why didn't their beliefs that they were genuine make them genuine?
I think those people are looking for love so hard that they ignore their intutions. They do everything for love and so they feel really unloved and lacking within. And what could be a better reflection of being unloved than someone who just wants your money?
But it's really pointless to ask something like that until you get a person on to the forum that we can talk to them directly, because it's about who they are and I don't think that in interview in TV or newspaper reveals much about who they are.