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Ex fiancé
Hi
I was with my fiancé for three years. He broke up with me and I've been trying to get him back for a year (about 1/2 year LOA).
We did meet up as friends but he was very closed off to anything more.
Eventually we got quite close and he told me he wants to date someone else to see if it can work with someone else.
I've been devastated but have tried to move past it and have used the whispering technique, affirmations and visualisations.
If I ever reach out to him he no longer replies.
He has also blocked me from social media.
I know he is the one for me so please don't suggest I move on, I'd like him back please. What else can I do? Thanks
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I recommend reading and/or listening to Neville Goddard. That has helped me more than anything. Here is a link to his recording of The Secret of Imagining which is less than 17 minutes long and is about how imagination creates reality.
I suggest that you do what Neville called 'living in the end of the wish fulfilled', which means imagining the ideal end result as if you already have it now. In your case, imagining the ideal relationship with your SP as if it is yours now. Revision could also help you. It has helped me a lot in 'unhearing' some hurtful remarks from my SP that I think weren't intended to be hurtful but I took them that way. In your case, an example of this could be replacing his comment about wanting to date somebody else with hearing him say 'you're the only woman for me, I love only you, I don't want to date anybody else' or anything that is the opposite of what he said that hurt you. Do not attempt to change the situation by trying to manipulate outward conditions directly, such as by trying to talk him into changing his mind or getting somebody else to try to do that for you. It wouldn't work. First change has to occur inwardly, in your mind. Ignore outward appearances as best you can, stay away from looking at any social media he might have or anything that could upset you or cause you to have fears or doubts. It can take time to change things, so give it time, don't despair, be patient, be persistent. As Neville said in his lecture Brazen Impudence, you are the only one who can keep yourself from having your desires by the failure to persist in imagining them.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who has run out of ideas.
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To add to my previous comments, also work on yourself to discover and change anything that contributed to this breakup. If you're lacking in confidence, for example, work on becoming a more confident person. I have had a lot of success by listening to some hypnosis cds I've got on various topics. Don't put him on a pedestal, put yourself on one, and think about how lucky he'd be to have you back again.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who has run out of ideas.
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Very helpful advice. Thank you.
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Hi I'm following all advice on here but still losing faith. I have phoned him on more than one occasion and he doesn't pick up.
He doesn't want to know.
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Berry wrote:
Hi I'm following all advice on here but still losing faith. I have phoned him on more than one occasion and he doesn't pick up.
He doesn't want to know.
By ringing him, you are trying to manipulate outer circumstances directly. The imaginary work is what creates the outer reality and has to happen first. As within, so without.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who has run out of ideas.
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Thanks. I did RS for about 10 minutes this morning, my head became very hot and I felt a lot of anger/pressure. Is this his feelings?
I got into a meditative state and imagined him telling me he loves me uncoditionally, that I am the only one for him, that he wants to be with me and only me.
I hope I have done it correctly?
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Please can someone help me? 
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Thanks. I did RS for about 10 minutes this morning, my head became very hot and I felt a lot of anger/pressure. Is this his feelings?
I got into a meditative state and imagined him telling me he loves me uncoditionally, that I am the only one for him, that he wants to be with me and only me.
I hope I have done it correctly?
No, I don’t think you are feeling his feelings. I don’t know what the anger/pressure was, but I don’t think it was that.
Yes, you’ve done that correctly.
To get the other girl out of your head, you could look up and try the rubbing out technique. Other than that, just make your focus on the relationship between you and him so strong that you don’t think about her because she’s not part of it.
Keep following the advice Cynthia gave and you will succeed.
Veronica Isles LOA coach veronicaislescoaching.com