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- Emma
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How do you block other peoples thoughts and expectations?! Please Help
This week I've been struggling abit with being positive, i am overtired which isn't helping and i keep falling asleep during my night meditations so feel like i'm wasting the meditations, but on the flipside i've been an insomniac for years but i'm finding when i fall asleep during the meditation i sleep through to my alarm the following morning! Anyway today my brother rang he's been trying to talk me into going on a Tinder for a while, i understand that's the modern way but i just don't feel like its my thing and it fills me with dread, also i'm still working on myself and ultimately i'd love more than anything to be with my SP. I feel pressure from my family and my friends to find someone, i know they mean well but every conversation i have with them you can guarantee they'll say, 'you need to find someone, you need to go this place that place to meet someone, you should be doing this, that and everything to meet someone, your not getting any younger, your now 36, you haven't got time to not meet someone and for it not to be serious, etc. the list goes on and on. I want more than anything in life than to be with my SP and to become a mum and for us to be parents together, but my family and friends make me feel like my time for being a mum is running out. Obviously i haven't told them about LOA and that i'm trying to manifest my SP, but everytime i hear this from them i feel so low and don't know how i can block what they are saying??
When i refused to go on Tinder today my brother said 'why won't you' then went on to say 'im going to be blunt your clutching at straws with your SP'. I could feel myself getting upset and tried to explain that i feel with everyone going on at me the pressure is to much and i'll do things when i'm ready and by pressuring me it isn't helping. Obviously i didn't say anything then about my SP, my brother does like my SP. During the phone call i began crying but tried to hide it from my brother, then once i came off the phone burst into tears and been in tears since.
I know my family and friends mean well but how can i keep my vibrations high and live in the end result when everytime i see them they nag me about finding someone, which emphasizes i haven't got what i want to manifest??
Family is so important to me, i don't want a big house, flashy cars or lots of money, i know i would feel most wealthy having my family around me, being in a loving relationship with my SP and for us to have a baby together, for me material things don't mean anything its the things that you can't put a price on that mean everything to me and that i cherish.
I'm sorry this has turned into a long post, but i'm so upset and feel i have no-one else i can talk to about it
- Sanshi
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Re: How do you block other peoples thoughts and expectations?! Please Help
They are only reflecting back to you what you have going on, else you wouldn't even have an emotional reaction to it. Use what they are saying as an indicator for where you are. Right now, you worry about your specific person not coming back and you feel pressure because you think you don't have too much time left to have a child. And that's exactly what you get reflected back from them. Covering it with positivity won't help. You have to remove the root cause which is what you believe. As long as you don't reach believe they will present it to you. So be grateful for them pointing out what to work on.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
- Emma
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Re: How do you block other peoples thoughts and expectations?! Please Help
Sanshi wrote:
They are only reflecting back to you what you have going on, else you wouldn't even have an emotional reaction to it. Use what they are saying as an indicator for where you are. Right now, you worry about your specific person not coming back and you feel pressure because you think you don't have too much time left to have a child. And that's exactly what you get reflected back from them. Covering it with positivity won't help. You have to remove the root cause which is what you believe. As long as you don't reach believe they will present it to you. So be grateful for them pointing out what to work on.
Thank you so much for your reply, you are so right and i hadn't even thought of it that way before, i really appreciate you pointing it out to me. I've just been dwelling on what they've been saying and repeating over and over it my my head what they've said, which has been making me feel so low.. Do you have any suggestions how i can change my belief and strengthen it for a positive outcome?? Perhaps i should start thinking my Gran had my dad when she was 42, my mum had my brother in her 30's and people are having babies later on in life and that i'm a lot more financially secure than i was in my 20s, also that i know my SP and I would make incredible parents. I NEED TO STOP DOUBTING MYSELF!!
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Re: How do you block other peoples thoughts and expectations?! Please Help
Pull your beliefs to the light and debunk them. I am still in the process of figuring out what works best, but the first step is always to find the belief. And you do that by looking at your emotional reactions to things and situations. My grandma was also 42 I think when she got my mom. And my mom has also a younger brother and sister. And I think I had read a story somewhere about a really old mother..I think she even got twins in her 60th or something like that. Look it up. There are tons of evidence that you don't necessarily lose the ability to get children the day you turn 30. It's always about what you believe. If you can believe that you can have children in your 70th, this will be your experience. But hey, you are far from your 70th. I think even 45 is still an age where many women can get children. So you have still a couple of years left even in a "normal" belief system. Why do you worry? Relax. All is fine. And stop putting pressure on yourself "I HAVE TO STOP DOING xyz" is resistance. You can't force anything.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
- Oasiscalm
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Re: How do you block other peoples thoughts and expectations?! Please Help
Emma I understand your frustration with hearing your family's moaning. But it really just needs a change of focus on your part.
1) for all intents and purposes they want what they perceive to be the best for you. So if you meet their grumblings with love and appreciation - the effect of them will change very quickly. Even replying with "thank you - I know you want to see me happy and married etc - it will happen - just have faith. But thank you for loving and caring for me".
Remember only you can give meaning to things in your life. Only you can allow them to upset you.
2) their opinion is exactly that - their opinion. It's not a reflection of you and it's not a reflection on how your life will unfold unless you choose to accept what they say as true. Everyone is allowed to think what they want to think and families are great at telling you what they think unfortunatly - but it's is simply their opinion. Let them speak as much as they like - it doesn't mean you have to hear them.
If you don't want to go on Tinder - you say "thanks bro but Tinder's not for me". My friend was a Tinder pro and she used to try to get me to do it but I just wasn't my thing. She find her husband in there. I deleted the app and never got that far.
You have to learn to stay firm in your position and project that position to the world around you. That's how you get people to respect you and stop trying to push their ideals onto you.
3) I agree with Sanshi as long as you are focused on it you will keep attract more of it. And you are getting a clear reflection from them of what you are projecting. Change your internal conversation and you will start to see your external conversations change. There is a great audio/book from Neville Goddard "Change your inner conversations". Start seeing yourself as a person who is attracting and has attracted your desired person/relationship and life. And you will see that firstly those grumblings from your family will have no effect on you - and eventually they will stop saying these things.
4) remember everything is internal. You give it meaning. You project and the world reflects. You choose your point of focus. Learn to let what is of no value to roll of your back. Stop hearing it and stop giving meaning to what you don't what in your life.
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