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Im completely devastated.
My ex came back a few weeks after our seperation and he confessed me his love and how much he missed me. I thougth: Ive done it. of course, he loves me. Otherwise he wouldnt have come back.
Since 2 months we are back in contact, I noticed a change but I kept going. I did lanies technique, whispering technique, working on my self love. The last week his texts got more and more sexual to the point where I clearly told him: I dont want this to go in the direction of just hooking up.
what he then told me CRUSHED me and shocked so deeply: "but this is going great. Way better than our relationship before. The only difference is that now, the center of our relationship is sex, and we dont to stuff around it anymore."
I COULDNT BELIEVE THIS. We met 2 months regularly, and he just wanted to hook up. We were a f.... COUPLE BEFORE. He wanted to sincerely MARRY me. he wanted KIDS with me!
Of course, I am NOT having intimacies with him ANYMORE . If I had known his intentions I would NEVER have slept with him again.
I just cant believe it. I mean, seriously, an ex who comes back after a S E R I O U S relationship (I was part of his FAMILY!) just wants to have sex.
I dont know how to cope with being used for sex. I want him to see me as the woman of his life, as he did in the beginning. I cant understand how his perception of me could change so drastically. And I didnt even act needily. My vibration certainly did....
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Yes know your worth!!! Go on no contact and focus on self love. A part of you has to feel less then loveable. I had this with my guy before and when I was fully engulfed in self love I sent him a message and told him my boundaries and all that. I felt. Amazing after that I felt confident secure and just like I said amazing. I felt I was worthy of a relationship and everything. My it came back to me and I have to say I know why. I was full of self love which led me to not selffle and I had 0 jealousy for anyone because I knew my worth and all that. In this situation self love and no contact is key. Know your worth feel it and they come running. Everyone loves a confident woman and most importantly the love you feel for yourself is amazing it is much better then anything.
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See what happened as a chance to perfect your practices and get him back the way you want him to. One way of looking at this is an blessing in disguise. You can do it love! I believe in you!Β Β