fizzy wrote:

I would say visualize him telling you what you want to hear. Maybe that he is off drugs for good or that he is no longer going to listen to his friends or family. You can even put this visualization in your past and start convincing yourself it’s a memory. You have to change how you see him to get him to change.

I agree, and not only that, but Neville had something he called 'remember when?' where the person would say something that was true of somebody that they didn't want to be true any more. Then the person would say 'isn't it wonderful that...' about the opposite. For example, 'remember when so and so was on drugs? Isn't it wonderful that he doesn't do that any more and he hasn't taken drugs for such a long time?'
 

Last edited by Cynthia (3/26/2018 6:12 pm)

Well its not his family, I know for a fact his family doesn't do drugs and is against him being on drugs of any sort.  They have been wanting him to be drug free for a very long time, like going to counseling, drug rehab.  Anger management, and rebuild his bridges with his family.  Everyone in his family he burnt bridges with.  Which really saddens me.  And, also my mother isn't being supportive of me even communicating with him and forgets that he is my child's father.  And, she must respect that regardless of who they are.  She doesn't have to like him since its not her job to.  But, she must get along with him and respect him regardless.  This is another reason I want to move out my moms home I need a miracle like a place to fall into my lap bunch of money and you name it.  Toxic parent = abused child.  And, its only his friends that are toxic in his life and I want them gone.