Well, for one thing you're going by outward appearances when you say his girlfriend's very much in love with him. You can never know if this is really true even if she tells you this. Also, if he is really in love with you, not her, he can't be happy living a lie continuing on in a relationship with her indefinitely. How much worse would this be if they got married, had kids, and got divorced later, or even had kids together without getting married as so many people do these days and then split up? The time to act is before it comes to that.  I don't think there's a person alive who hasn't had, or won't have, their heart broken at least once in their lives, probably multiple times by the time they die. It's happened to me and everybody I know. We all get over it, if we're mentally healthy. Neville has talked about how he got a divorce from his first wife (they'd been separated for years) to marry his second wife by imagining he was blissfully happily married to the second wife and how, without hurting anybody, everything worked out and fell into place for this to happen. He made a point of saying 'without hurting anybody'.

Last edited by Cynthia (3/18/2018 1:07 am)