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Sanshi wrote:
Thank you both, that makes a lot of sense. I guess it’s just difficult to apply to our own lives sometimes!
Practice makes perfect.
So true! Or the other saying - if it were easy everyone would do it.
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Thank you both, that makes a lot of sense. I guess it’s just difficult to apply to our own lives sometimes!
Practice makes perfect.
So true! Or the other saying - if it were easy everyone would do it.
I wouldn't tell myself that it's hard. It's not. Every child does it perfectly. We just try very hard to unlearn everything so that others thing we are grown-ups. 
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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I wholeheartedly agree with what Sanshi is saying here. It really is only ever about you.
I wouldn't focus and put a ton of energy into trying to figure out what's 'wrong' with you. That'll keep you in a low vibration. There might be something within you to 'fix', but don't beat yourself up about it. Most of the time, overanalyzing situations and picking yourself apart because of them is a major part of the issue. Let go and try to have a more lighthearted, joyous approach to life. Love yourself exactly the way you are and love your life with the exact circumstances you're facing. In doing this, you will be able to approach your resistance with much more clarity. When the resistance comes up, you'll recognize it, know what you'll need to do to fix it, you'll fix it, and then move on with your life. The outcome of this situation is not what defines your happiness, unless you let it. I know this all might sound silly and it might not be what you want to hear, but it works.
If you want, go back and read old posts from this forum and study Neville Goddard. That's what has really helped to put things in perspective for me. Also, TheSilverLining has a great Daily Inspiration thread that I've been benefiting from.
I think I have a tendency to do exactly what you said! I over analyze and try to figure out what I’m doing wrong. Like in the case of him acting cold towards me - I try to figure out what I’m doing because I feel like I am attracting the wrong thing and want to fix it!
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Hi everyone,
I just wanted to continue on with this topic, I hope you’ll all be patient with me. I am working to try to stop finding meaning in everything and just enjoy myself and my life but I still have trouble. I understand what I’m reading but I still have trouble applying things sometimes.
My ex is still acting cold and I just came to the realization that he is most likely trying to have zero contact with me. Whether it’s something he wants or his current partner suggested I have no idea and I’m trying not to figure it out for my own sanity. However, how do I keep believing he will come back to me when I have realied that he is deliberately trying to avoid contact with me?
The only thing I have found so far that makes me feel better at all is believing that he must still have some attraction, otherwise he wouldn’t have to avoid me so much? If he had zero feelings he could see me and interact with me and keep it so we were just acquaintances that see each other occasionally and that’s it. I guess the whole idea of him avoiding me just hurts my feelings...
Any thoughts?
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My ex is still acting cold and I just came to the realization that he is most likely trying to have zero contact with me.
This right here is giving meaning.
How can you believe it? By simply understand that this is the way things work. You can't take your current situation and say "That's how it is. That means that it will be that way tomorrow". If you really believed that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life, you had no reason to keep looking at your situation and giving it power over you.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Re: Suddenly acting cold...
Hi everyone,
I just wanted to continue on with this topic, I hope you’ll all be patient with me. I am working to try to stop finding meaning in everything and just enjoy myself and my life but I still have trouble. I understand what I’m reading but I still have trouble applying things sometimes.
My ex is still acting cold and I just came to the realization that he is most likely trying to have zero contact with me. Whether it’s something he wants or his current partner suggested I have no idea and I’m trying not to figure it out for my own sanity. However, how do I keep believing he will come back to me when I have realied that he is deliberately trying to avoid contact with me?
The only thing I have found so far that makes me feel better at all is believing that he must still have some attraction, otherwise he wouldn’t have to avoid me so much? If he had zero feelings he could see me and interact with me and keep it so we were just acquaintances that see each other occasionally and that’s it. I guess the whole idea of him avoiding me just hurts my feelings...
Any thoughts?
You keep looking to the outside for signs and things when really you should look inside. It's based on how you feel . "We attract what we are not what we think" I mean we do but how do you feel? That tells you your belief right there. Right now you are giving waaay too much attention to what he is or isn't doing. And his partner as well and the motives.STOP! Take a step back and start focusing on you. What do you feel? You need to focus on whaf makes you feel happy and things . Focus on your wants . It's hard sometimes to avoid current circumstances but that is up to us to keep affirming what we want. I found personally with me the best way this works is focusing on gratitude and what makes me happy. Focusing on myself like I would others if not more. I focus on what makes me happy because I deserve to feel happy now. Now some people think that it doesn't have to do with self love but for me it does because self love makes me feel worthy of my desire and keeps my vibe high so i attract what I am. Love. Also it makes me feel good just for me. I feel more confident in myself I don't rely on others with is a foundation for a better relationship because I'm full of love and positive things already without him. In regards to specifics on him. I do the visualizing once a day but once I do it I tell myself to let go. It's training your mind . It takes a bit to build up new habits so be understanding to yourself. Just keep yourself to a routine with loa whatever feels good to you is best and it will help build your vibe and confidence.
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My ex is still acting cold and I just came to the realization that he is most likely trying to have zero contact with me.
This right here is giving meaning.
How can you believe it? By simply understand that this is the way things work. You can't take your current situation and say "That's how it is. That means that it will be that way tomorrow". If you really believed that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life, you had no reason to keep looking at your situation and giving it power over you.
I totally understand what you are saying. I guess my belief is lacking in a lot of ways. I find myself looking back and trying to figure out what I must have done to cause these things to happen, which I know I shouldn’t be doing.
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Re: Suddenly acting cold...
Hi everyone,
I just wanted to continue on with this topic, I hope you’ll all be patient with me. I am working to try to stop finding meaning in everything and just enjoy myself and my life but I still have trouble. I understand what I’m reading but I still have trouble applying things sometimes.
My ex is still acting cold and I just came to the realization that he is most likely trying to have zero contact with me. Whether it’s something he wants or his current partner suggested I have no idea and I’m trying not to figure it out for my own sanity. However, how do I keep believing he will come back to me when I have realied that he is deliberately trying to avoid contact with me?
The only thing I have found so far that makes me feel better at all is believing that he must still have some attraction, otherwise he wouldn’t have to avoid me so much? If he had zero feelings he could see me and interact with me and keep it so we were just acquaintances that see each other occasionally and that’s it. I guess the whole idea of him avoiding me just hurts my feelings...
Any thoughts?You keep looking to the outside for signs and things when really you should look inside. It's based on how you feel . "We attract what we are not what we think" I mean we do but how do you feel? That tells you your belief right there. Right now you are giving waaay too much attention to what he is or isn't doing. And his partner as well and the motives.STOP! Take a step back and start focusing on you. What do you feel? You need to focus on whaf makes you feel happy and things . Focus on your wants . It's hard sometimes to avoid current circumstances but that is up to us to keep affirming what we want. I found personally with me the best way this works is focusing on gratitude and what makes me happy. Focusing on myself like I would others if not more. I focus on what makes me happy because I deserve to feel happy now. Now some people think that it doesn't have to do with self love but for me it does because self love makes me feel worthy of my desire and keeps my vibe high so i attract what I am. Love. Also it makes me feel good just for me. I feel more confident in myself I don't rely on others with is a foundation for a better relationship because I'm full of love and positive things already without him. In regards to specifics on him. I do the visualizing once a day but once I do it I tell myself to let go. It's training your mind . It takes a bit to build up new habits so be understanding to yourself. Just keep yourself to a routine with loa whatever feels good to you is best and it will help build your vibe and confidence.
Thank you so much for the lovely post. This is definitely something I need to work on. I know I put way too much stock on what other people think and feel as well as outside circumstances. Deep down I feel like we’re meant to be together because no matter what I do I cannot shake the feelings I have for him. Time has not filled them in any way whatsoever.
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