Also, he keeps suggesting we date other people......

authenticself wrote:

And he won’t even date me again, I don’t understand why it’s like this. Cuz he loves me, but not the same way. And I feel trapped because I explained my feelings to him and he is like what should we do? Cuz I have this feeling inside me that is pulling me towards us being together in the end. Like a magnetizing feeling, as if that reality exists. But my mind keeps saying it won’t happen. What do I do?

Did he just randomly say that? Or are you trying to guide him into saying things you want to hear?

authenticself wrote:

He mentioned it awhile back randomly that he thought about us a lot, but he doesn’t think we should date. That he loves me, but not the same way.

If it was a while back why are you still talking about it?

Even if it was yesterday - why continue to focus on it?

The simple fact is if you are going to be a delibrate creator you have to get the discipline to ignore anything that goes against your desire. It's that simple.

Just like to lose weight you have to cut out junk food, to learn a new language you need to practice, to get a bodybuilders body you need to pump iron.

Drop the negative talk - if it doesn't fit in with the picture of the end goal - ignore it

authenticself wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

authenticself wrote:

He mentioned it awhile back randomly that he thought about us a lot, but he doesn’t think we should date. That he loves me, but not the same way.

If it was a while back why are you still talking about it?

Even if it was yesterday - why continue to focus on it?

The simple fact is if you are going to be a delibrate creator you have to get the discipline to ignore anything that goes against your desire. It's that simple.

Just like to lose weight you have to cut out junk food, to learn a new language you need to practice, to get a bodybuilders body you need to pump iron.

Drop the negative talk - if it doesn't fit in with the picture of the end goal - ignore it

How do I respond when he tells me we should date other people then?

Did u read what I wrote?

I don't see how such a conversation just randomly occurs (but that's just my opinion). I'm finding it hard to picture a guy just randomly saying "hey how's the weather? We should date other people!!!"

How do I think you should respond?

I not really going to entertain your question because I have told u what to do in my previous post.

If u read that and absorbed it u wouldn't ask "how to respond to such a question"  - u wouldn't even be thinking of such a scenario.

Cam~ wrote:

I agree with Oasis. It seems like you manifested this interaction out of fear, or you're not letting the process naturally happen and you're trying to force it. Which may have caused him to say such a thing. But this is pure speculation. None of us know what happened until you want to explain. I know it's hard to do, but IGNORE CURRENT REALITY. It's unhealthy to just bottle up negative emotions, so when they come, let them come. However, don't let those emotions overpower your desire. Continue to focus on the end goal. 

It probably was forced cuz he said he doesn’t want me to blame him for holding me back from dating someone new. I tried that and I felt worst, so I don’t want to date anyone new.