Selfloveiskey wrote:

I know some of you have messaged me privately for advice . To be honest today I realized how attached I am to the outcome after a reading and I do not think I am in a good frame of mind to give you that.  I know what feels good to me and some of you may resonate . Currently what feels right is this
1) focusing on me and other things
2) anytime a thought about him comes in say the universe handles this it knows what I want

Currently doing any visualizing I feel is attaching me too much. So I apologize to those sending me private messages. I'm gonna focus on me for awhile and would appreciate any advice anyone has to offer me. I will assist when I'm back in a good vibe

 
Have you tried Lanie Stevens' cutting the cord meditation? I've used that one. It is useful for taking your power back, and I still do it, but what has really been helping me in unexpected ways, one of which is to feel incredibly free of any attachments to any outcomes, is a personalised subliminal recording I had made by somebody on youtube who calls her channel matrixplay99. I couldn't believe how long the recording was - over 4 1/2 hours long - and I've only had it for a couple of weeks, and I don't even know exactly what the suggestions are - I told her my situation and what I wanted and left the rest to her - but it was the best money I've spent in a long time. I shouldn't probably quote the price, but it was very inexpensive. It's something that can be played whilst doing other things, so I've been playing it a lot in the background. I'd highly recommend giving this a try because it's been helping me a lot.

Selfloveiskey wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Selfloveiskey wrote:

I know some of you have messaged me privately for advice . To be honest today I realized how attached I am to the outcome after a reading and I do not think I am in a good frame of mind to give you that.  I know what feels good to me and some of you may resonate . Currently what feels right is this
1) focusing on me and other things
2) anytime a thought about him comes in say the universe handles this it knows what I want

Currently doing any visualizing I feel is attaching me too much. So I apologize to those sending me private messages. I'm gonna focus on me for awhile and would appreciate any advice anyone has to offer me. I will assist when I'm back in a good vibe

 
Have you tried Lanie Stevens' cutting the cord meditation? I've used that one. It is useful for taking your power back, and I still do it, but what has really been helping me in unexpected ways, one of which is to feel incredibly free of any attachments to any outcomes, is a personalised subliminal recording I had made by somebody on youtube who calls her channel matrixplay99. I couldn't believe how long the recording was - over 4 1/2 hours long - and I've only had it for a couple of weeks, and I don't even know exactly what the suggestions are - I told her my situation and what I wanted and left the rest to her - but it was the best money I've spent in a long time. I shouldn't probably quote the price, but it was very inexpensive. It's something that can be played whilst doing other things, so I've been playing it a lot in the background. I'd highly recommend giving this a try because it's been helping me a lot.

Where do you get them and for how much?

 
Lanie Stevens' website is laniestevensauthor.com, and I think it was $5. Most of her mp3s are, but there are a  couple that are $10, and she's got some bundles of 3 or 4 recordings that I think are $20. The one I had made by the youtube person was $20, but I think she charges less than that usually. She told me it was $20 because of so much content. You'd have to discuss the price of what you wanted with her.

How quick does she respond?

Cynthia wrote:

Selfloveiskey wrote:

I just emailed matrix . I want to have help with self love and stuff and also get him back. But I really feel like I'm trying to control him if I say that. I want him to have free will and pick me . So I m making the focus more about me and believing he can come back.

 
If we're all co-creating, though, is there really free will as most people define it? At some point, you attracted each other into your lives, and when things were better between you, you were both co-creating that. Don't blame yourself if things went wrong because some of the responsibility lies with him as well. I hate to see people blaming themselves completely when things have gone wrong between themselves and another person. The falling out I had with my bloke was caused by both of us, not just him, not just me, and I think that's true across the board.

Yeah but if it was both how do manifest someone back into your life that doesn't want you?

Cynthia wrote:

Selfloveiskey wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

 
If we're all co-creating, though, is there really free will as most people define it? At some point, you attracted each other into your lives, and when things were better between you, you were both co-creating that. Don't blame yourself if things went wrong because some of the responsibility lies with him as well. I hate to see people blaming themselves completely when things have gone wrong between themselves and another person. The falling out I had with my bloke was caused by both of us, not just him, not just me, and I think that's true across the board.

Yeah but if it was both how do manifest someone back into your life that doesn't want you?

 In my case, I can see where he did something, I reacted, and it went back and forth like that, which is why I said it's mutual.

I think that you said a few months ago that your person had come back and told you he loved you, so if that was true,  how can he go from that to not wanting you in such a short period of time? How can you be certain that is now the case? Do you really think that's true? I know from my personal experience that people say and do things all the time that they don't really mean for reasons that possibly only they know. It could be a funny mood they are in, a phase they're going through, because they're upset or angry at the time, and not necessarily at you, or some more serious issues they have on their mind that really have nothing to do with you, or even playing games. My person has got some major issues and many worries and troubles that he's got to sort out, not to mention a load of baggage from his past that he's dumped onto me.  None of that has anything to do with what feelings he has for me. I've finally learnt not to take it personally, even though it is very hurtful. You can never know for sure what is going on in somebody else's mind, and if you take things at face value you can get the wrong end of the stick. I agree with Veronica when she says if you have a strong desire it's not there to mock you, it's because it is attainable and you're meant to have it. If everybody in the world wanted the same person, there would only be one couple in the whole world, and how silly would that be? If you really want this person as badly as you seem to, it's not because some higher power outside you wants to laugh in your face and tell you you can't have him.
What I meant the other day was self love is important for your own wellbeing, but it is not the only thing if you want to attain something specific. There is a lecture by Neville Goddard that is in written form on the internet called Brazen Impudence which I find very encouraging and helpful. There is a lot of religious stuff at the beginning, but when you get past that, he talks all about how he got out of his first marriage to marry his second wife, which in those days was a lot more difficult than now. What he means by brazen impudence is not taking no for an answer and persisting until you get what you want. His method was very simple. He didn't do all kinds of techniques and things. He simply imagined having things the way he wanted them as if he had them already and what that would be like and fell asleep afterwards. He'd been turned down for an honourable discharge from the army, so he imagined being at home, honourably discharged, and he was on his way home, honourably discharged, about 8 days later. He married his second wife that way. He got everything he wanted that way. Dr Joseph Murphy said, 'Infer no opponent' to your desires. People set up blocks in their minds about how they can't have something, usually something they really want. Patience is very important, and letting things happen at their own pace. People nowadays want everything right now, and they can be on their way toward attaining their desire but get impatient if it's not happening fast enough for their liking and that's when they can start to try to force things and then they get frustrated and feel all sorts of negative feelings and end up telling their sob stories about how bad their situation has become and how desperate they are on forums like this, whereas if they would have been more patient and given it whatever time it took they would have either achieved their desire or been well on the way to that.

He even said in November he couldn't love anyone else as much as he loved me. So I would like this back. I want to not rely on him though I want to be my own person too. Thanks