The fear comes from our last conversation. Pretty much we were starting to speak again (I initiated talking to him though) and he was willing to try to speak with me again and we will see from there. He was beginning to talk about how he feels he was sure things will work out between us, and started talking about if we get back together we will start going steady. Our last conversation he metioned how he missed me and couldn't wait to see me. But then he started saying how he was upset with my bestfriend because she was being rude to him then cancelled our plans. After saying we shouldn't see each other anymore because he loved someone else and that speaking to me will impulse him to be with me, and decided he will be dating her soon. So what really hurt me was the fact that he really made me believe everything will be fine. I only sometimes think about this other girl. But I am glad he never told me her name because I would have obsessed over her. It's just the fact that he made me believe we will go somewhere and then just walks out of my life in the end. In my mind though during the process, I was so sure we would work out, so I got confused as to then why did my trust and belief backfire. That's why I am so impatient and sometimes doubtful now.

Debbie wrote:

Well try to not be too hard on yourself about what you are feeling, but the thing you need to understand about being impatient is that really, when you feel that way, what you are doing is expressing lack, and when you feel lack you just manifest more and more lack.

One thing I notice here is that the words you have written are about what you feel is going wrong, plus some of your worries and fears. Focusing on that is simply not going to get you what you want, because the Universe brings you not what you want or don't want, but what you focus on. It is always that way, without exception. And the good thing about knowing this is that you can now take steps to control what you focus on so that you can really get what you want in life.

I'd go to YouTube and watch some of Veronica Isles videos because she really does explain very well how we can zero in on what we do want rather than what we don't want, and then concentrate only on that. 

Well said Debbie, I guess it's all about retraining your thoughts also. Bad thoughts can become a habit or even an addictive. Taking any positive steps to eliminate these thoughts is a huge step forward.

Ok it can sound difficult but when you persist which I am at present it becomes so much easier.

I'm so greatful for all you fantastic people

Allgood wrote:

Debbie wrote:

Well try to not be too hard on yourself about what you are feeling, but the thing you need to understand about being impatient is that really, when you feel that way, what you are doing is expressing lack, and when you feel lack you just manifest more and more lack.

One thing I notice here is that the words you have written are about what you feel is going wrong, plus some of your worries and fears. Focusing on that is simply not going to get you what you want, because the Universe brings you not what you want or don't want, but what you focus on. It is always that way, without exception. And the good thing about knowing this is that you can now take steps to control what you focus on so that you can really get what you want in life.

I'd go to YouTube and watch some of Veronica Isles videos because she really does explain very well how we can zero in on what we do want rather than what we don't want, and then concentrate only on that. 

Well said Debbie, I guess it's all about retraining your thoughts also. Bad thoughts can become a habit or even an addictive. Taking any positive steps to eliminate these thoughts is a huge step forward.

Ok it can sound difficult but when you persist which I am at present it becomes so much easier.

I'm so greatful for all you fantastic people

Yes that's it! It's about retraining your thoughts, and it's kind of a question of disciplining yourself at first. I'm really having to work at that now myself, too. What you said here has made me remember something my mom did once. She went through a stage in her life when she was feeling continually upset and depressed. But then one day she simply decided that she wasn't going to live like that anymore and she just watched her thoughts and disciplined herself to change the old dialogue that she was used to. She didn't use LoA but it was a similar idea and she became so much more positive and happy in her life.
 

barbidoll wrote:

Thank you This was something I needed to read I really need to retrain my thoughts I was raised in a negative abyss so naturally I have carried it throughtout my life and it has ruined not just my relationship with the love of my life but other things too This kind of came to me like a lightning bolt it was the wake up call I needed to realize that everything I have ever known has been destructive and I need to work overwhelming on learning how to see the light and the good in life I have been focusing on wanting my life back and the hunger I feel to be back where I should be Want is lack I am getting it

Well you know barbidoll whatever happened to you in the past can be put behind you because now that you have the knowledge about loa coming into your life, you can become like an artist painting your new reality and shaping things the way that you want them to be. Once you have some practice in loa and see how it really does work then you will always be the one in charge of the way you want things to go. It really will be a life changing experience for you, and a very positive one. :-)